> 2010/02/02 - 3:00pm
> Mat 12:34-35
>
> Your face, posture, tone etc will give away more than the words.
>
> 3 area's of interpersonal communication.
>
> God is a renovator
>
> The choice (who we listen to)
> The challenge (self disclosure)
> The change
>
> Ultimately you're listening to God or the enemy.
>
> Gen 3:1-3 "did God really say?"
>
> Sin only leads to death, it can't lead anywhere else, God said so and hasn't changed.
>
> Not qualified to judge ourselves.
>
> Hiding naked and afraid when we sin.
>
> Why would we listen to Satan?
>
> Self-centredness
> When we sin we hurt ourselves.
>
> Self-protection
> When we hurt ourselves we defend ourselves.. If anyone tries to save their own life, they will lose it. If you surrender it to God you are more protected than anything. You don't have to stay hurt. The spirit is gentle and won't force it's way through your protective barriers.
>
> Self-justification
> When we defend ourselves we justify ourselves by attacking others. "If you were there you would know, you would do the same", "if you knew what they said". Tearing others down, maligns others. "If they weren't such an idiot"
>
> Self-deception
> When we justify ourselves we deceive ourselves. They don't that they don't know. Unconscious incompetance thinking they are competant.
>
> The enemy can't hurt God but he can have a go at us.
>
> Self deception results in:
> Hiding - we hide and inhibit intimacy
> Copying - inhibit creativity
> Pretending
> Lying
>
> 2. How do we listen to God?
> Submission - when we listen and obey, we live.
> Forgiveness - when we turn to God we are forgiven, if you have unforgiveness you won't be able to hear God clearly. Forgiveness allows your ears to be clean your heart to be undivided.
> Grace - when we are forgiven we forgive. You're able to do what you do because of grace. You are able to live life.
> Freedom - when we forgive we are free
>
> People go through massive trauma's and they don't want to be free, it can be scary and unfamiliar and requires a transformation from slave to worshipper/warrior.
>
> Freedom results in:
> Intimacy - free to be close
> Creativity - to be different
> Authenticity - to be ourselves
> Honesty - to speak the truth
>
> B. The Challenge - self disclosure
> Your testimony should have more about Jesus than the enemy.
>
> It takes a really wise person to look in the mirror and see what's really there. The bible is our mirror. Sometimes it can feel like that massive magnifier in a hotel room. Sometimes the image is distorted because of past life experiences etc.
> Intrapersonal, let's pull it apart and let God rebuild it.
>
> The necessity for correct self-discolsure.
>
> You are His body, make it a good body so He can walk tall.
>
> Self-knowledge is necessary for ministry
> Self-disclosure is necessary for intimacy
> Self-denial is necessary for oratory
>
> You can only give to God what you own up to.
>
> Maybe it was their fault but now I will take responsibility for it.
>
> Christ was a successful communicator is because he confidently says "I am..."
>
> And then be able to lay it down when you need to.
>
> Write down five "I am" statements about yourself.
>
> I am friendly
> I am patient
> I am creative
> I am compassionate
> I a
>
>
> 2010/02/02 - 1:45pm
> Father, Son & Holy Spirit
>
> Our Father the communicator
>
> By His Son - Heb 1:1-3, Jn 1:14
> By His Word - Gen 1:3, Jn 1:1
> By His Works - Ps 19:1-4
> By His Spirit - Jn 14:16-17
>
> Jesus - God's message
> Showed us God - Jn 10:30
> Showed us the Word - Jn 1:14
> Showed us how to communicate with the Father - Lk 5:16, 11:1-13
> Communicated whatever the Father told him - Jn 12:49-50
>
> Theology demands application, it's not like other 'ologies, you can't have knowledge of God and not act it out.
>
> Hearing and doing.
>
> Holy spirit helps us to bring to memory what has been said by God.
>
> Things learnt by doing rather than cramming stay with us. So, the Word, *through use* we learn it.
>
> Holy Spirit - God's Voice
> Testifies about Jesus - Jn 15:26
> Teaches us all things - Jn 14:26
> Reminds us of what Jesus said - Jn 14:26
> Guides us in all truth - Jn 16:13
> Speaks only what he hears - Jn 16:13
> Reveals what God has prepared for us - 1 cor 2:9-10
>
> Will only tell you things that will glorify Christ
>
> Spirit of God is Emmanuel, God with us.
>
> Spirit doesn't nag, it prompts, reminds, prompts etc.
>
> When you start to doubt and think "did God really say" check with the spirit.
>
> God is not holding back on the plan, he is a communicator.
>
> God said it, it is. You can trust it. Analogy of a man made chair.
>
> He has prepared good works for you, to champion you.
>
> My doubt and insecurities will only hinder me, not the rest of the world.
>
> ---
>
> Intrapersonal Communication - (intra meaning within itself)
>
> More tuned to hear our own name than anything else.
>
> How to communicate within yourself.
>
> Within the individual self or mind.
>
> Intrapersonal communication determines our success at other forms of communication.
>
> Eg self awareness, processing, thought life, self talk, self image.
>
> Old testament 'heart' is about thinking not emotional life, it's the essence of who you are and what you think.
>
> Intrapersonal communication skills can impact on our communication with God
>
> Think about it, how it impacts your communication.
>
> If you understand who you are
>
> Communication involves inner communication.
>
> Write down 3 things negative you regularly say to yourself
> I don't understand how to do that
> Do they like me?
>
> Write down 3 positive things you regularly say to yourself
> Patient/calm
> Attractive
> Grateful
>
>
> Being a bit predictable means we can understand each other a little bit better. To do real life together.
>
> The gift and call is irrevocable
>
> Matthew 12:34-35
>
> 2010/02/02 - 11:00am
> For a nation to be wiped out, the language had to be wiped out
>
> Language-
>
> Language as a weapon
> Prov 18:21
> Esther 1:22
>
> Establishes kingdoms/cultures
> Dan 1:3-4, Isa 59:21
>
> Destroys kingdoms
> Neh 13:23-24
>
> Scatters people
> Gen 11:6-7
>
> Transmits a message
> Acts 2
>
> Revives a people eg Israel
>
> Father, Son, Holy Spirit - what language does God speak? Your language, a language of praise, life, worship, creation.
>
> 2010/02/02 - 9:45am
> Gen 11:6-7 (NIV)
>
> If people do something with one language their plans will not fail.
>
> Difference between management and leadership is communication.
>
> The art of communication is the language of leadership.
>
> Communicate effectively.
>
> Not even two way communication it's multi-dimensional.
>
> Interpreting communication cues.
>
> No matter no backed into a corner if you can communicate clearly you can still build relationships, lead people, etc.
>
> Why communicate?
> 9 reasons.
> God formed the world using communication.
>
> God communications through special revelation (God's Word) and general revelation (eg. creation, a tree)
>
> Because of the incarnation Jn 1:1 and 14
>
> Because of the life of Christ - Jn 12:49-50
>
> It's how we survive (physically, emotionally, spirituality, practically etc)
>
> It's our mandate - message of reconciliation
>
> It's how we transmit information
>
> It's how we lead/influence effectively
>
> It's how we build and grow relationships Eph 4:29
>
> -
>
> Communicating one message Jesus is Lord.
>
> We choose daily to bridle our words and let only life come out.
>
> You can't do life on your own, you and Jesus on an island. You can't do life in isolation.
>
> Comes from latin "communicare" meaning to share. From the root word "communis" meaning "common"
>
> Greek "Koinonia" translated in Phil 6 meaning 'to share'
>
> Less is more. What is the bottom line. What are you really saying. Sum it up.
>
> Messages distorted by external, physiological and psychological noise
>
> Eg what do you think of with the word, "used car salesmen", "brain surgeon".
> Or the word 'trunk' four different meanings.
>
> It is impossible not to communicate.
>
> We communicate intentionally and unintentionally.
>
> Communication is;
>
> Irreversible
> Unrepeatable, entirely unique, it means it matters to get it right first time.
>
> What's most important is what they heard (what they think you said) not what you meant to say.
>
> Think before you speak. Learn to process before you speak as well.
>
> Words have the power to:
> Many good and bad things.
>
> Pre-redemption my words were destructive.
>
> When you've experienced something at it's worst you're more inclined to be using God's redemptive power in that area.
Begin forwarded message:
> From: Nathan Rickuss
> Date: 20 February 2010 9:44:27 AM
> Subject: 00 - 2010/02/02 - 4:15pm Communication Ministry
>
> 2010/02/02 - 4:15pm
> Communicating with God can be that simple:
> Relax, listen, respond
>
> Communicating on behalf of God, you don't have to change while prophesying, you're the same, don't change accents. God doesn't speak in king james. The people at that time needed it in their own language.
>
> Speaking through you using your voice in a way *they* understand.
>
> Goals of correct self disclosure:
> 1 Jn 1:5-7
> Reconciliation - Illumination leads to reconciliation
> Repentance - light exposes our sinful nature
> Revelation - light reveals who we are in Christ
>
> Once you know you, you won't hesitate to show others. Doesn't have to be all your stuff on a clothesline type style.
>
> We are all of equal value.
>
> Principals of self-disclosure
> The Depth of Self-Disclosure
> related to the depth/nature of the relationship
>
> The Difficulties of self-disclosure
> Depends on the nature of the emotion and the audience
>
> The dynamics of self disclosure
> Dynamics of our disclosure depends on the nature of the information known.
>
> Secrets are not cool, they are deceptive.
> Don't say "promise me you won't tell anyone". Secrets are about hiding. Controlling the level of detail shared etc is wisdom.
>
> Activity in self disclosure
> 2 statements.
>
> I often envy... People with many friends or in a relationship.
>
> One thing I really like about myself is... My looks and my heart for people.
>
> I dislike it when.. People are dishonest.
>
> Just mention the elephant. "This is awkward"
>
> Imagine whose dreams you're going to help fulfill.
>
> C. The Change - heart, mind and speech.
> Joshua 1:8
>
> Meditate on the words. Talk to yourself.
>
> Verses. Chew on it, swallow it, regurgitate, like a cow.
>
> Don't just chant the verse, amplify it. Don't just repeat the adjectives thing about what those things are things.
>
> Emphasizes different words in the verse.
>
> 1. A change of heart
> Prov 4:23 - guard your heart (ability to think etc)
>
> Mark 7:20-21
>
> 2. A Change of mind.
> Rom 12:1-2 - offering your body as a living sacrifice. Paul had to get on the altar daily.. For us could be multiple times per day.
>
> Be transformed by your intrapersonal relationship skills (renewing of your mind).
>
> You can't offer what you don't understand.
>
> 3. A change of speech
> Lamentations 3:24
> Ps 42:5-6
>
> - Personality & Temperament
> Knowing it helps:
> Self awareness, acceptance, development. Understanding and accepting others.
>
> Studying temperament is not for making excuses, diagnosing/boxing people, judgment, stereotyping.
>
> There's a way to be honest that brings life, that brings solution.. You don't have to be negative.
>
> You're negative by choice (melancholy by nature if that is your type).
>
> Hippocrates 470-377 BC categorized people:
>
> Sanguine - lively
> Choleric - active
> Melancholy - black, creative geniuses, analytical, bent on the edge, profound thinkers, can argue in and out of any situation.
> Phlegmatic - slow, "no worries", it's happened, can't change it.
>
> If you can understand yourself and others God can use you. Allow God to bring life to your temperament.
>
> 2010/02/02 - 3:00pm
> Mat 12:34-35
>
> Your face, posture, tone etc will give away more than the words.
>
> 3 area's of interpersonal communication.
>
> God is a renovator
>
> The choice (who we listen to)
> The challenge (self disclosure)
> The change
>
> Ultimately you're listening to God or the enemy.
>
> Gen 3:1-3 "did God really say?"
>
> Sin only leads to death, it can't lead anywhere else, God said so and hasn't changed.
>
> Not qualified to judge ourselves.
>
> Hiding naked and afraid when we sin.
>
> Why would we listen to Satan?
>
> Self-centredness
> When we sin we hurt ourselves.
>
> Self-protection
> When we hurt ourselves we defend ourselves.. If anyone tries to save their own life, they will lose it. If you surrender it to God you are more protected than anything. You don't have to stay hurt. The spirit is gentle and won't force it's way through your protective barriers.
>
> Self-justification
> When we defend ourselves we justify ourselves by attacking others. "If you were there you would know, you would do the same", "if you knew what they said". Tearing others down, maligns others. "If they weren't such an idiot"
>
> Self-deception
> When we justify ourselves we deceive ourselves. They don't that they don't know. Unconscious incompetance thinking they are competant.
>
> The enemy can't hurt God but he can have a go at us.
>
> Self deception results in:
> Hiding - we hide and inhibit intimacy
> Copying - inhibit creativity
> Pretending
> Lying
>
> 2. How do we listen to God?
> Submission - when we listen and obey, we live.
> Forgiveness - when we turn to God we are forgiven, if you have unforgiveness you won't be able to hear God clearly. Forgiveness allows your ears to be clean your heart to be undivided.
> Grace - when we are forgiven we forgive. You're able to do what you do because of grace. You are able to live life.
> Freedom - when we forgive we are free
>
> People go through massive trauma's and they don't want to be free, it can be scary and unfamiliar and requires a transformation from slave to worshipper/warrior.
>
> Freedom results in:
> Intimacy - free to be close
> Creativity - to be different
> Authenticity - to be ourselves
> Honesty - to speak the truth
>
> B. The Challenge - self disclosure
> Your testimony should have more about Jesus than the enemy.
>
> It takes a really wise person to look in the mirror and see what's really there. The bible is our mirror. Sometimes it can feel like that massive magnifier in a hotel room. Sometimes the image is distorted because of past life experiences etc.
> Intrapersonal, let's pull it apart and let God rebuild it.
>
> The necessity for correct self-discolsure.
>
> You are His body, make it a good body so He can walk tall.
>
> Self-knowledge is necessary for ministry
> Self-disclosure is necessary for intimacy
> Self-denial is necessary for oratory
>
> You can only give to God what you own up to.
>
> Maybe it was their fault but now I will take responsibility for it.
>
> Christ was a successful communicator is because he confidently says "I am..."
>
> And then be able to lay it down when you need to.
>
> Write down five "I am" statements about yourself.
>
> I am friendly
> I am patient
> I am creative
> I am compassionate
> I am sacrificial
>
> Without communication how will you write songs, sermons etc
>
> We are in it for His glory, not our glory or for money.
>
> If you can't communicate they will remain blind. Articulate truth clearly, authentic.
>
> Catrina prays as much about the altar call as the sermon.
>
> You don't want to be trying to prove anything to anyone when you do these things eg sermon, lead worship etc.
>
> Mindset shift from wanting people saying to you "I wish I could be like you" to... "That makes me (someone else) believe I can do that"
>
> You're either called or your not, if you make a mistake it's ok.
>
> Love people just a little bit than you are afraid and you'll be ok.
Begin forwarded message:
> From: Nathan Rickuss
> Date: 20 February 2010 9:44:27 AM
> Subject: 00 - 2010/02/04 - 10:30am Communication in Ministry
>
> Three ways of relating
>
> 1. Non assertive
> 2. Aggressive
> 3. Assertive
>
> We need Assertive skills.
>
> Each person has a particular style but only one of these can help, the others will tear down.
>
> Eph 4:25 - speak truthfully, don't use manipulation.
>
> Col 3:9-13
>
> Assert - declare strongly, insist upon
>
> Aggressive - unprovoked attacking hostile manner
>
> Passive - what we say and mean can be different, or say different to what we feel.
>
> Passive is lose - lose
> You don't communicate what you want and lose for them because you're lying to them. You hide feelings and thoughts. It's superficial.
>
> Self limiting beliefs can cause non-assertive. I.e. Insecurity, inferiority, comparing, low self-esteem, envy.
>
> Or things like attractive people are better looking than other people... It's got nothing to do with the outside.
>
> Your confidence comes from who you know you are in Christ, not external stuff like clothes and money.
>
> You're not competing against anyone.
>
> Payoffs
> Apparent Rewards avoid conflict, keep the peace, things fester under the surface. To be liked (on the inside you're convinced that people don't like you). To avoid blame and responsibility because you didn't make a choice. Constant undermining of self.
>
> Harsh inner critic
>
> Non-assertive characteristics:
> Gunny-sacking (contains ammunition), how full is my gunny-sack?
>
> There is a physical consequence to the baggage we carry around
>
> Puts self last
>
> Lack confidence
>
> Low self esteem
>
> Lack self respect
>
> Speaks for no one
>
> - Agressive
> Win - Lose
> Relating:
> Verbal "you should know better" "you never listen" "you make me feel so angry" "you always make"
> There's a never and an always and a you.
>
> Non-verbal, no response, silent treatment.
>
> Passive behaviour, intentional that has a message. Very vicious, feeds on itself.
>
>
> Eph 4:2-3
>
> Aggressive makes the other feel bad.
>
> -Assertive
> Win - win
> Rom 12:1
>
> Expresses thoughts, feelings, wants, don't wants. Full awareness of them.
>
> Respect for the other and yourself.
>
> Expresses in an honest way, builds self esteem and real self, stand without anxiety. Builds strong marriages.
>
> Know who you are in Christ, God's love covers all *BUT* you must speak in truth or it won't cover it.
>
> Friendship is about disclosure, communicating.
Begin forwarded message:
> From: Nathan Rickuss
> Date: 5 February 2010 7:54:26 PM
> Subject: 00 - 2010/02/04 - 2:00pm Communication Robert Ferguson
>
> - Speaking
> Verbal
> Non-verbal
> Public speaking
>
> No phones
> No sleeping
> Front row mentality
> This class and college isn't about you it's about the people you will influence.
> Make a decision that you need to hear this.
> Your life and others are depending on you to listen.
>
> The expectation of leadership
>
> Communication
>
> Start with the general and move to the specific.
>
> When there is a lack of communication there is a miscommunication
>
> L block exercise
>
> Sender, reciever, noise, encoding, decoding into minds
>
> To clarify we have feedback
>
> Noise is anything that prevents communication, eg distraction.
>
> Moving away from the distraction while on stage.
>
> Essential ingrediants
> Sender - principle: focus on what is heard, not sent. Concerned with that they are hearing. Problems we are selfish and blame shift, misinterpretation.
>
> Prov 13:17 (living)
>
> Encoding, translation
> The message itself, coded (words, pictures etc) - principal, must learn two 'languages'. Problem: a gulf seperates sender and reciever. Different cultures, generations etc.
> Listened to talk back radio for 6 months to learn the culture. Change your interests and passions
>
> Decoding, interpreted (pre-judgment can occur, decoded inappropriately and not listening) connotations - what you think the word means. Eg decode the word "father", "policeman"
>
> The message
> Non-verbal communication carries more weight than we think. Truth must include love.
>
> Verbal 7%
> Vocal 38%
> Visual 55%
>
> Decoding - principal, the decoder is faulty. Problems: we read through our past hurt, circumstances, prejudice, connotation, rejection, preception. Misread, misjudged.
>
> Hurt, protected, justified himself, aggressive to other people.
>
> Self protective hand on heart blocking. Other hand in a fist.
> Solution, go to God as a human ask to be forgiven, changed.
>
> Stop the blame shifting
>
> Remove the barriers
>
> Arms open wide. Vulnerable and where there is intimacy is the possibility for hurt.
>
> The reciever, principal, more to listening than hearing. Problem: It takes effort to listen. Inappropriate mindset, internal distraction, self centredness "that's nothing, I..."
>
> Jesus knows you best and loves you most.
>
> Noise - noise is more than noise.
> Most senders are unware, flawed sender, clouded message, distracted reciever.
>
> Feedback - essential for accuracy
> Problem: much of our communication is one-way. Lack of ability, lack of opportunity, lack of honesty.
>
> Each has principals and problems associated with it
>
> Have to establish what these words mean.. Eg add adjectives "Good father"
>
> Difference between sight and vision is perception.
>
> ---
> -- Verbal Communication
> The Power of the Word
> Jer 1:9-10
>
> 1 pet 4:11 - speak as though speaking the very words of God
>
> The power to change
> Mat 12:34 - describes the position of our heart.
>
> Robert had filthy language.
>
> If you're saying the wrong things you need a heart change.
>
> Rom 10:9 the tongue decides the condition of our soul.
>
> Blood shed but not applied doesn't work.
> You apply the blood with your tongue, confess with your mouth.
>
> Justified
> Redeemed
> Sanctified
> Cleansed
>
> All by the blood. Confessed with your mouth.
>
> James 3:4, Num 14:28 - the tongue directs the course of our life.
>
> Eph 3:8-11 - the tongue delcares the purposes of God.
>
> Mat 8:16 - tongue destroys the kingdom of darkness
>
> Mat 12:36-37 - the tongue determines our eternal destiny... Have you confessed your faith in Christ? Make it a greater confession than ever before.
>
> Josh 1:8 - tongue dictates the extent of our victory
>
> Robert as a new christian wrote down all his problems, rejection, fear anxiety, pages and pages... And wrote the scripture that answers it. 50 sins, 50 scriptures. Read them all the time.
>
> Velvet worker, 4 hours scriptures, pastor in america. Mended his mind by confession... His mind was destroyed by drugs initially.
>
> Ps 45:1, Prov 3:3 - tongue defines the language of our heart
>
> Writing on your own heart with the pen of your tongue.
>
> You need a revelation that God is your father. Start thanking God for who He is and what you are to Him.
>
> Words have power to harm
>
> The reality of curses josh 6:26, 1 kings 16:34
>
> Power of curses prov 12:18, prov 18:21
>
> Appropriation of curses, prov 26:2, numbers 23:18
>
> Acts 5
>
> - the power to heal
> Reality of blessing deut 28:1-14
>
> Gen 12:1-3
> You are blessed, you don't need someone to speak it over you. It doesn't matter what your parents are like.
>
> The power of blessing gen 27:27-41, num 28:18, Isa 59:21
>
> The appropriation of blessing, Gal 3:1-14, Eph 4:29
>
> Robert read every scripture about blessing, get a revelation about it.
>
> Heb 6
Begin forwarded message:
> From: Nathan Rickuss
> Date: 5 February 2010 7:54:26 PM
> Subject: 00 - 2010/02/04 - 5:00pm Communication Robert Ferguson
>
> Public Speaking
> Imprompteu speaking
> Learn to speak off the cuff
>
> Techniques
> Story about the thing, with details.
>
> Prepare.
> Subject.
> Anyone here can speak on any subject, you know something about it. You have a memory.
>
> Start telling a story about that memory.
> Past memory.
>
> Start thinking, what did I learn from that memory.
>
> You come up with a present message.
>
> Then give a future mission.
>
> Don't panic, walk confidently and start thinking.
>
> Starts with a date.
>
> Book: "The language of leadership" - James Humes
>
> One of the most significant speeches was read by Lincoln, Gettysburg. Followed that structure.
Begin forwarded message:
> From: Nathan Rickuss
> Date: 20 February 2010 9:44:27 AM
> Subject: 00 - 2010/02/04 - 9:00am Communication in Ministry
>
> Georg Pingel
>
> Conflict Resolution skills
>
> 1. The importance of confrontation
>
> 2. Assertive communication
>
> Group exercise
>
> What happens when confrontations don't go well? - ends relationships,
>
> Were you the confronter or being confronted, what went wrong?
>
> What did it do the relationship?
>
> Come up with 3 reasons why we need to confront well
> -
>
> 5 keys to confronting well.
> - private
> - motive
> - staying calm
> - wisdom
> - go to God first
> - ask questions, ask what's going on in their life
> - confront specifically (the person) not the group.
> - the love sandwhich
> - open heart, teachable
> - not being offensive or defensive
> - at the end of the confrontation there has to be solutions, action steps, speaking life, you can change, it can be different.
>
> ------
>
> You're ripping people off if you don't confront them as a leader or friend, you deny them the opportunity to grow.
>
> Every confrontation is an opportunity for both people.
>
> Communication skills
>
> Guidelines:
>
> -Stop talking
> Most people don't keep quiet long enough, stay calm and give them enough time to talk.
>
> - if you are doing more than half the talking, you're talking too much.
>
> - put the other person at ease, if they are tense they will be pre-occupied and it will be hard to communicate with them.
>
> - be yourself
>
> - avoid crossed arms, fidgeting, leaning away, clenched teeth. Short answers might indicate they are not at ease, if you get them talking
>
> - be friendly and smile, offer food, comfortable place to sit, talk about things that they like, build repore
>
> - look and act interested in what someone has to say. Focus in on the person and pay attention. If they feel you're not listening it creates damage in that situation. Genuine desire to be attentive.
>
> - ask them things about what they are saying. Even practical things, gets you attentive and shows you are listening, "what town was that?"
>
> - ask questions to direct
>
> - remove distractions, eg iphone etc.
>
> - be patient
> Respect that everyone communicates their own way at their own pace, don't interupt. Be patient.
>
> - empathise
> Empathise rather than criticize
>
> - don't try to communicate while angry
> Anger changes the meaning of words sometimes, blocks the ability to listen
>
> - avoid arguing and criticizing
>
> - always answer a question directly *first* then explain.
>
> - poor communicators answer a simple question with a complicated answer.
> Concise and correct.
>
> - precede questions with necessary information.
>
> - make your point early, if you have 45 minutes don't spend 30 minutes putting them at ease.
>
> - repeat yourself to get the point accross.
>
> - try to get a response from the listener, also can be non-verbal
>
> - when you sense disagreement, especially non-verbally.. Ask for their opinion, get them involved.
Begin forwarded message:
> From: Nathan Rickuss
> Date: 5 February 2010 7:54:26 PM
> Subject: 00 - 2010/02/05 1:00pm Communication that builds culture - Katie
>
> Stir up the gift of God within you.
>
> Language & Culture
> Leaders speak culture
> Mission statement and 'empowering people'
> 5 star church
> Speaking into maturity
> Communicating culture "everything about you says something about you"
> Selah (the book by Brian Houston)
>
> Language: the power of what we speak.
> Gen 1:1 - creative power of our God.
> John 1:1-16 - words can become flesh
>
> Our words in God have creative power.
>
> Day to day living your words have creative power.
>
> What kind of words are fleshing their way out around our life?
>
> What we say, *creates*
> Remove a language, destroy a people.
>
> Language creates culture
>
> What kind of culture is around your life?
>
> What is your language?
>
> Leaders shape culture with the words we speak.
>
> Think of a time a leader has spoken into your life.
>
> Shapes people
>
> Culture is people, they create and carry culture.
>
> Words shape people.
>
> What culture do you see from the communication of our leaders.
>
> It has to be in you first before you can shape the outside.
>
> Shaping people and culture takes time.
>
> What do you observe in Christ-Centered culture?
> *Positivity
> *Encouragement
> *Ps 100:2 - "serve the Lord with Gladness" Church is to be enjoyed not endured.
> *Life-giving - are people being given life when you speak to me?
> *Love - authenticity and action. If people feel loved around you they will be around you.
>
> Hillsong mission statement
>
> Our culture:
> *Empowerment - to enable people
> *Influential - everyone has a sphere of influence
> *Focused on Jesus Christ
> *Based on the Word of God.
> *Impacting
> *Touching every area/sphere of an individual's life & every part/sphere of society. - every part of your life is impacting.
>
> 5 star Church
> Like 5 star service, you feel looked after and feel like the most important person there. Because people are worth it.
>
> The reasons:
> - God is excellent in nature.
> - God is excellent in power.
> - Jesus demonstrated *excellence in everything*
> - God promises to give us a spirit of excellence.
> - Excellence is a spirit affecting every area of life.
> - Excellence defines our attitude to the House of God.
>
>
> Speaking into Maturity
> Eph 4:14-16, 29-30
> Your speaking is testifying to your maturity in Christ. A sign of maturing to be like Christ, and is essential to building the body.
>
Begin forwarded message:
> From: Nathan Rickuss
> Date: 5 February 2010 7:54:26 PM
> Subject: 00 - 2010/02/05 10:00am Church & Ministry - Duncan Corby
>
> What is church? - the people of God.
>
> Church = ekklesia (called out of the midst of the world)
> Community of God's people
> Called out from the world to be God's special people.
> The community gathered.
>
> Israel at Sinai, same word.
> Called out from egypt
> Gathered together
> Gathered before God.
>
> Greek city gatherings
> Citizens gathered together.
>
> Church and the Trinity.
> Very important to your christian faith.
>
> Why would a fundamentally single entity create except to rule over, power. I.e. Muslim islam.
>
> Why would a relational trinity God create? To expand the circle and share. The fundamental thing we are created for is to be together, it's a reflection of who God is.
> Church is to be the place where people can get a picture of God.
>
> He is a relating, fellowshipping intimate God. God is love. The trinity.
>
> God's original plan for human society. It's meant to reflect the trinity of God.
>
> Relationship with God, with self and with others. Trinity.
>
> This plan starts being realized through the church now that the fall has happened.
>
> Something profoundly wrong with secular society, the cruelness, selfishness etc.
>
> Church is family.
> The church has organization and structure but it's not an organization or structure. It's a network of relationships coming together to reflect the trinitarian nature of God.
> Eph 3:14-15 - God Father, head of the family.
> Gal 6:10 - family of believers
> Eph 2:19 - members of God's household.
> 1 tim 3:15 - God's household, the church
>
> So what should we do?
> 1. Value and dignity placed on people. Respected. You relate to the people on your team as people, not tool or resources. They are family before they are people doing a job.
>
> 2. Relationship, family relationship. Have relationships with people.
>
> 3. Love, acceptance and inclusion. We are all equal in Christ. The world operates by dividing up people. In Church those barriers are to be removed. One large family, not a divided family. Barriers of all kinds.
>
> 4. Play, eat and laugh. That's what families do. Doing life together. Gives, exudes life. You are family before you are an army. Do what families do. Coffee is a social activity.
>
> 5 healed, healthy and growing people. Raises people. Healthy, happy, confident, secure at ease people. Dsyfunctional families produce the opposite.
>
> 6. Do the seasons together. As a family. Some benefits you only get from going through seasons.
>
> 7. Unity. You get it by dealing with your own issues and then going out and helping others with their stuff.
>
> (Watched an offering testimony) x 3
> God changed their life through the church
Begin forwarded message:
> From: Nathan Rickuss
> Date: 5 February 2010 7:54:26 PM
> Subject: 00 - 2010/02/05 11:00am Chapel - Duncan Corby
>
> Phil 3:1, 10-11
> First and foremost I want to know Jesus.
>
> Retain a core of knowing Christ while being crazily active in church.
>
> Verse 2, warning about Jewish christians trying to turn gentile christians into jews. They don't boast in Jesus they boast in their flesh, in their jewishness.
>
> His problem is that they focus on the flesh, the things about themselves.
>
> We fall into this trap all the time.
>
> When have you felt insecure, inferior, superior? You're looking at your accomplishments or lack of them. Wishing you had things in the flesh or marvelling in the things you have in the flesh.
>
> Looking internally at your accomplishments, nationality, fashion sense, social group, opportunities to reach a conclusion about your worth and identity.
>
> Paul has stopped playing that game, it's a waste of time.
>
> The surpassing worth of knowing Christ.
>
> You can either play the game of ticking off the boxes of self or receive the gift of Jesus and getting your acceptance in that area, value and identity.
>
> To play the game is to be in denial about who you are.
>
> Two coffee cups, one clean and dirty (crud).
>
> You can't attract Jesus by the how clean a cup you are. Jesus will clean the cup, what's important is that it's His cup, nothing you can do can make you more His.
>
> The value is from who owns the coffee cup. President left his cup at your house analogy.
>
> And it's for the purpose of drinking coffee.
>
> Your value is in who you belong to and your purpose is to be filled with coffee to be shared with those who need to have a drink
Begin forwarded message:
> From: Nathan Rickuss
> Date: 5 February 2010 7:54:26 PM
> Subject: 00 - 2010/02/05 2:15pm Connect Groups - Jason Lessels
>
> What we do is a privelage.
> Seeing different seasons of life in pastoral care.
>
> Small church with lots of people, because of connect groups.
>
> Acts 2:46
> Acts 5:42
> Acts 20:20
>
> Through consistancy and regularity.
>
> Connected into groups, into family.
>
> Make a decision that while you're here, you are here... Don't get wound up by past stuff etc.
>
> Input/output model.
>
> Attend and lead a connect group.
>
> 3 keys to cg's
> Connect people to a biblical community (who can I connect this person with?)
>
> Equip - have others speak into you, speaking into others. You start to see the gifting and start to speak life.
>
> Serve - every person is created with a God given potential.
>
> What is a balanced cg?
> Core is connection, being in relationship with each other, with equip and serve on each side.
> Stands in the middle of the see-saw and keeps it balanced.
> Whatever stage of God they're at the person can flourish and grow.
>
> Learn to be a leader of 10, same principals will apply to leading 1000's.
>
> 16th feb cg leaders training night.
Begin forwarded message:
> From: Nathan Rickuss
> Date: 5 February 2010 7:54:26 PM
> Subject: 00 - 2010/02/05 8:30am Church & Ministry - Duncan Corby
>
> To give you a good grounding in what church is.
>
> If you're going to be building the church you want a solid biblical foundation of what the church is.
>
> If you can really grasp what the bible is really saying about the church it will change your understanding and your love for church will grow.
>
> Your experiences up to this point are shaping your thoughts about church.
>
> - What is the Church? House of God, family of God, body of christ.
> Mission statement of Hillsong church.
> What makes church "church".
> Leadership in the new testament.
> Weekend services that work.
>
> (Notes on portal)
>
> - the House of God
>
> What do you believe about Heaven?
>
> Define heaven as: the throne room of God, surrounded by his heavenly court of angels. Ruling the universe
>
> How does heaven and earth relate to us? Where is heaven?
>
> 3 possible answers.
> Heaven and earth never connect, never relate (God has been on holiday since created) - Deism theory.
>
> Heaven and earth coincide, surrounded by heaven - Pantheism, occupying the same time and space, not christianity.
>
> Heaven and earth connect in certain places and at certain times. This is what we understand as Christians. Every now and then God dramatically intersects.
>
> Gen 3:8 - certain times of day that God would come and fellowship with them.
>
> Gen 28:17 - connection between heaven and earth, portal between heaven and earth.
>
> Moses
> Ex 25:8 - make a sanctuary I will dwell. There in that tent not everywhere.
> Num 9:15
>
> Solomens temple
> 1 kings 8:10-11
>
> Jewish idea was God is in the temple, the connection between heaven and earth is in the temple, it's where God chose to dwell.
>
> God's presence departs
> Ezek 10:4-19
>
> God present in Jesus
> John 1:1, 14
>
> In the same way God's presence was in the tabernacle is now in Jesus. Jesus is now the perpetual connection between heaven and earth.
>
> The believer is a new temple
> 1 cor 6:19
>
> Temple is the presence of God dwells, where heaven and earth meet.
>
> The church is the new temple
> 1 cor 3:16-17
> This scripture is talking about the church, you collectively are God's temple. The you is plural.
>
> The presence of God dwells amongst us as his body.
>
> Eph 2:22 another plural you. Being built together.
>
> Heb 3:6 we are his house
>
> 1 pet 2:5 you are being built into a spiritual house, tabernacle.
>
> Church and Kingdom
> Mat 6:9-10
> Relatuonship between kingdom and church
>
> Eph 1:22-23 Jesus is appointed king over everything for the church which is his body. He exercises his kingdom authority and rule through the church. He does it through us.
>
> Through his church that Jesus is reigning, a dimension of experiencing the fullness of God only through the collective gathering.
>
> The church is the house that's built together, not just on your own.
>
> Eph 1:20 (msg)
>
> NT attitudes to church
> Luke 4:16 "as was his custom" value the gathering of God's people. Regular and frequent custom.
>
> Heb 10:25 - let's not give up meeting together
>
> Mat 16:18 - on this rock I will build my church. Jesus is building his church. Only one thing Jesus said he would build is his church.
>
> Eph 5:25 - Jesus' love for the church. Love the church, give myself up for her so she can be all she can be.
>
> Eph 4:3 - make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. Issues of the heart most commonly cause disunity not doctrinal differences. Decide to be uncluttered on the inside, uncluttered with your agenda.
>
> Responses:
> *Go regularly, gathering is something communities do often.
> *Primary thing, build what Jesus is building. If following, go where he goes, he's building his church.
> *Love the church. Give yourself for it
Begin forwarded message:
> From: Nathan Rickuss
> Date: 11 February 2010 11:10:59 PM
> Subject: 00 - 2010/02/09 - 1pm - Communication - Robert Ferguson
>
> 2 languages you need to learn or re-learn. Absolutely vital.
>
> Language is not something you learn and leave, it's something you learn and speak.
>
> Never come to college or church without a bible. At any time someone may ask you to say something.
>
> John 8:43-44 (niv)
>
> Declaration of truth and overtaking lies.
>
> Replace the lies and deception with truth.
>
> 1. The power of language
> Gen 11:6
>
> Every successful military campaign has been accompanied by language.
>
> 2. Potential for language death. Languages can die and with it the languages culture.
>
> 9 languages by 100 million
> 181 languages by 1-9 people
>
> Very cautious about the language of Truth.
>
> Neh 13:23-24
>
> Loss of language through exile.
>
> Maintain purity of language, children will only speak half of what you speak.
>
> Destroyed through a process of mixture.
>
> Add a lie to the truth to water it down until you no longer speak kingdom.
>
> Ps 137:1-6 - I will speak the truth, I will not let my language die.
>
> 3. The revival of language.
> Language can be revived.
>
> Is 59:21
>
> Story of daughter and carpet story praying for it.
>
> If you don't speak the language it will dissappear
>
> ---
>
> Two languages we need.
>
> The language of blood.
>
> The language of the Spirit.
>
> -
>
> Blood.
>
> Heb 9:16-22
>
> You have to have blood.
>
> Christ died, you already have blood for the offense.
>
> 1. The blood is for propisiation (a turning away of wrath)
> 1 john 4:10 - atoning sacrifice in nkj
>
> Quote from John Stock.
>
> 2. Purification
> Heb 9:7
>
> If Christ wasn't here you would be dirty and would have been killed.
>
> 3. Participation
> 1 cor 10:16
> Fellowship, sharing, relationship.
>
> Jer - the heart of man is desperately wicked.. If you don't get it, you'll never be grateful.
>
> The people a long way from God don't see a big difference. Floor and ceiling analogy, further away it seems smaller.
>
> What does the blood say?
>
> Heb 12:22-24
>
> 3 types of blood and what they say.
>
> A. Abel
> B. Bulls
> C. Christ
>
> A. Blood of Abel
> Gen 4:9-10. Innocent blood cries out from the ground "you are guilty". The world is guilty, humanity is guilty.
>
> Mat 23:35
>
> Rom 3:9-12 - we are all sinners.
>
> You can try and sweeten your life but the blood of Abel still screams out guilty.
>
> B. Blood of bulls. Cover the blood with blood.
> Is 1:11
> Heb 10:1-4
> Blood of bulls cannot take away sins.
> It says nothing. Silent.
> The blood of Abel still screams out guilty.
>
> C. Christ
> Justification. Not guilty.
>
> One of the ways to learn language is repetition.
>
> Heb 13:5-6 - because God has said, we say woth confidence.
>
> 13 things the blood says
>
> 1. You belong to God.
> Acts 20:28
> Rev 5:9
> The Father has bought you with the blood of Jesus.
> 1 cor 6:20
> Rom 10:9 - start with a confession that he is in charge.
> I belong to God. The enemy has no rights to your wellbeing.
> It's your house God, I'm a guest.
>
> Give him the keys, he has bought you, you are not your own.
>
> 2. You are no longer a slave.
> Eph 1:7
> Heb 9:12 - redemption, bought back with a price. No habit will have a hold.
>
> Anything that masters you is sinful. Like ciggarettes.
>
> The only way to get free is to learn the language, not point the finger.
>
> 3. Clear conscience
> Heb 9:14
>
> 4. You are near to God.
> Eph 2:13
>
> Forget your past, learn blood, it will tell you truth.
>
> If you have to repent, repent
>
> 5. Reconciled with God. Peace with God.
> Col 1:20
> I have peace now. Give thanks for the peace that you have. Anxiety is living outside of grace. Anxiety lives in tomorrow. You have been given grace for *today*. Who knows
>
> 6 I am holy
> Heb 13:12
>
> 7. I am free
> Rom 1:5
>
> 8. I am forgiven
> Heb 9:22
>
> 9. A living saviour
> Heb 13:20
>
> 10. I have confidence
> Heb 10:19
>
> 11. We are clean
> 1 Jn 1:7
> The blood cleanses us.
>
> 12. You have victory over the devil.
> Rev 12:11 - by the blood of the lamb
>
> 13. You are not guilty (justified)
> Rom 5:9
>
> Hear it, believe it, apply it.
>
> Rom 10:17
>
> Believe it. Put faith in what God has done.
> Rom 3:25
>
> Apply it.
> Blood that was shed but not applied does not work.
>
> Apply it through your tongue
> Rev 12:11
>
> Heb 13:5-6
>
> Blood AB - universal recipient (all of us)
> Blood O - universal donor (Jesus)
Begin forwarded message:
> From: Nathan Rickuss
> Date: 11 February 2010 11:10:59 PM
> Subject: 00 - 2010/02/09 - 3pm - Joel Houston
>
> Don't quit.
>
> Prov 16:9
>
> The journey.
>
> Walking in your own shoes.
>
> Shoe story, shoes too big.
>
> Don't strive to be someone else. Robbing yourself of who God calls you to be. Cut ourselves short.
>
> Story about getting rolled at 2am in the morning at 14.
>
> Take your shoes off on holy ground.
>
> Spiritually speaking we don't need to wear shoes (i.e. Position etc).
>
> God has put you there for a reason.
>
> Story about being asked to speak at conference.
>
> Little opportunities that will be the making of what God wants to do with you.
>
> See every moment as an opportunity, be consistant. It's not about you, take your shoes off.
>
> -
>
> Called to be in the world without being of it. Being anchored. Our agenda. The further out the stronger your anchor is needed. Relationships, Word, discipline, responsibility.
>
> Communicate love to them, not going to judge them.
>
> Commit the time to make that anchor strong.
>
> God has the greatest ways of pulling you down.
>
> If you think you don't have time now, you'll have less in the future.
Begin forwarded message:
> From: Nathan Rickuss
> Date: 11 February 2010 11:10:59 PM
> Subject: 00 - 2010/02/09 - 4:30m - Joel A'Bell
>
> Content Session
>
> A lot of us look to Jesus as Lord, saviour, healing, pastoral care.... How about leadership?
>
> Leadership is the ability to shift/alter the state of someone else.
>
> Leading like Jesus.
>
> 1. Am I leader? It's your choice.
>
> Two types.
> Organic - life role, father, husband, friendships etc
> Organisational - functional, job specs, position, title, structure.
>
> Problems when not adding in organic to organisational. Or being organisational at home with no warmth, foundation of love.
>
> While waiting for your organisational leadership build your organic leadership, you will need it.
>
> Let the natural flow of organic leadership saturate our functional.
>
> 2. Am I willing to follow Jesus as my role model?
> Confrontation is a leadership skill and should not have negative connotations. It means to turn your face towards someone.
>
> 3. How do I lead like Jesus
> Luke 9:18-21
>
> Cyclical transformational journey
>
> A.
> It's personal. Personal leadership. If you can't govern and build self.. What good will you be to others. Personal leadership must be critiqued first.
>
> Jesus was so secure in himself he could ask, who do you say I am?
>
> Personal leadership is about perspective. Gaining perspective. Who am I?
>
> What are you good at, what are you bad at? What's holding you back?
>
> Grow me, know me, show me.
>
> Jump in a mental helicopter.
>
> Outcome: perspective
>
> B.
> One on One Leadership.
> Ability to connect with one person.
> Your ability to meet with another person and bring them across the line.
>
> Outcome, objective: trust
>
> Building trust. Work on building trust. The relationship as a bridge. Type of bridge is what you can bring across.
>
> Luke 9:28-36 trust being built. One on one interaction.
>
> Any good leader won't say everything. You give a bit, if trust is there a bit more. So on and so forth.
>
> Acceptance and love always there. But trust grows and the information becomes more personal.
>
> Can God trust you? It's your choice.
> You're as close to God as you want to be.
>
> There's no shortcuts to trust. You need to put the time, you've got to put the hour in to the person. Strategically, most key people to what you're accountable for and sow into them.
>
> C.
> Team Leadership
>
> Outcome: community
> Create a sense of community, family.
>
> Luke 9:46 - sense of community, love each other not just the leader.
>
> Secure, ok with with your voice not being heard. Hats between when am I the boss, when am I the friend.
>
> Love people, committed to them, they should know it without telling them.
>
> D.
> Organisational Leadership
>
> Outcome: effectiveness
>
> ---
>
> Confront asap, love asap.
> "1 minute manager" book
>
> Management by wondering around. Encourage right away, confront right away. Don't wait till next week.
>
> Life balance. Never perfect is what balances itz it's not static, it's dynamic. Ebb and flow. Dynamic. Look ahead in your calender.
Begin forwarded message:
> From: Nathan Rickuss
> Date: 11 February 2010 11:10:59 PM
> Subject: 00 - 2010/02/09 - citycare meeting
>
> Not here to rescue.
> Come alongside people.
>
> Respectful, honouring.
>
> Be light in conversation. Not "oh what group are you in, how is it".
>
> Lime green colour theme this term.
>
> Dress and present appropriately.
>
> Leaders meeting at 5:00pm monday.
>
> Write a mini job description that someone could pick up and take over.
>
> Usually 6:45pm leaders meeting.
>
Begin forwarded message:
> From: Nathan Rickuss
> Date: 11 February 2010 11:10:59 PM
> Subject: 00 - 2010/02/09 - combined meeting at hills
>
> Most Represented
> Usa
> Aus
> Can
> Uk
> Norway (37)
>
> -----
>
> Sanga, grant thompson, karoya, julia a'bell, ian woods, lee burns, rueban morgan.
>
> Leadership
>
> Sanga - most trouble from a church leader. Allowed the use of fire, burnt the baptismal pool. Running late services. Drew on the walls of the old office.
>
> Karoya -
>
> Woods - you only get one shot, make sure you have fun on the journey. Atmosphere of joy and comradery... Otherwise you get burnt out.
>
> Brian - intimidated by a leader. Difference between respecting and being intimidated by leadership, how to overcome?
>
> Woods - when intimidated you lose the joy. Realise that Jesus paid the same price for me as anybody else.
>
> Julia - doesn't think about the front row, things about the people in need.
>
> Brian - sometimes approached people and they seemed unfriendly... But actually they were intimidated.
>
> Sanga - be totally confident and happy. Walk in my own shoes, be who I've been called to be. Be myself.
> Romans - God's call is irrevocable
>
> What do you do to grow as a leader?
>
> Burns - constantly reading, look for area's that need growth... Confidence... Communication.. Focus on it for 12 weeks etc.
> Don't worry about trying to be all of that all at once.
>
> Rueban - reading. Finding things that inspire you. Going after things that flick the switch. Don't stop being a fan, even as a professional musician, composer etc... Keep being a fan. Be open to feedback.
>
> Julia - embrace all the trials and obsticles
> Enlarge capacity by overcoming things.
>
> Thompson - job 42. It's a lot about heart. When your heart is right it just happens. When thinking or heart issues things can slow down.
>
> Some other thing to describe leadership.
>
> Sanga - purpose driven, not personality driven. Embrace change. Not driven by who the leader (personality) is, it's the purpose behind them.
>
> Karoya - caring for the people, growing your people under you. Not focused on the area at the expense of the people.
>
> Leader vs non leader?
>
> Thompson - difference is the fruit that is produced. What is God blessing.
>
> Lee - as a leader there is something in you that people want to draw from. Submission, drawing from the one above you.
>
> Julia - the leader has the influence, title doesn't make a leader.
>
> Brian - consistancy. Church life has seasons. Fruit. Attitude. Over a long period of time. Depth to go with the charisma.
>
> Woods - here to help people. Lead with a servant heart. Love people. God loves them, we should do the same. Help them be all they can be.
>
> Sanga - disciplined prayer life. When you go to the Word you need it for you. Things will only increase
Begin forwarded message:
> From: Nathan Rickuss
> Date: 11 February 2010 11:10:59 PM
> Subject: 00 - 2010/02/11 12pm Church & Ministry - Duncan Corby
>
> We need to know what it is to build it.
>
> House of God
>
> The Church as the Body of Christ
> 1 cor 12, Eph 3,4
>
> Eph 1:20 (msg)
>
> Rom 12:3-8
> 1 Cor 12:12-30
> Eph 4:11-16
> Col 2:19
>
> What do you learn about the church as a body from these passages?
>
> Principle
> Practices
> Attitudes
> Things to guard against
>
> 1. Don't place yourselves above others. One body. Each person connected. Each person has skills and different abilities.
>
> ----
>
> Why does it talk about the church as a body?
>
> - different skills coming together to form a unified body
>
> - each part has a purpose
>
> - Christ is the head of the body, directs it, tells it how to move.
>
> - new testament is trying to say Jesus is us, his head remains, we *are* the body.
> "When you see me you see the Father"
> - when you see *us* you see the father.
>
> You are his body.
>
> I'm more than my body. Who I really am is expressable through my body.
>
> Let the head decide
>
> Unity - not at war with itself
> Connected
> Function - part of an overall function to do something
>
> Every part is significant and God placed.
> Each part relies on each other part.
> Every part must submit to the head.
> Care for one another.
>
> The part you play has a soveriegn plan, soveriegn aspect to it. Both valued equally by God.
>
> Only as strong as the weakest part.
>
> Connected to each other as strong as you are connected to Jesus. You can't be connected to God and treat other connections as less important.
>
> We all draw life from the same thing, the head.
>
> When there is pain in a part of the body, it must effect me. If your shoulder hurts you put your hand on it.
>
> It takes the entire the body to get the fullness of Christ, to express the fullness.
>
> - break-
>
> Watched mission video
>
> Dazzles with reflective glory
>
> Be an agent for unity, connectedness
>
> - Hillsong Church's Mission Statement
>
> To reach and influence the world by building a large, Christ-centred, bible-based church, changing mindsets, and empowering people to lead and impact in every sphere of life.
>
> Why altar call at every service? Reaching people.
>
> A church will not grow if the people in it don't want it to grow?
>
> Are you willing to identify, stretch, grow, sacrifice to grow.
>
> Commit to personal ongoing growth and change.
>
> If you want to reach more people that what you're reaching now you need to change into someone who can reach more people.
>
> Influencing the world to become a different place. How to be a better country etc.
>
> All through building the church. Does this thing help build the church? Some things can be awesome but don't build the church.
>
> Large means successful in reaching and more likely to influence. You can have a large impact.
>
> The biggest thing restcricting growth and potential is mindsets that don't change. Renewing of the mind. Most of us are ignorant of the way we think.
>
> If you focus on sin, you end up structuring around the avoidance of sin, which does not empower.
>
> Instead speak about life and pursuing life.
>
> If you focus on the pothole you will hit it because you're focused on it.
>
> Instead, there's a pothole, where will I go to avoid it? I'll go that way.
>
> Positive, upbeat practical. To take a persons life forward, it moves you away from the negative.
>
> Repentance, doing it without the words. Repent is to turn around and go a different direction.
>
> An empowering environment being encouraged.
>
> Jesus is a message of life. Word of the Lord is meant to lift you, not cut you.
>
> Embracing life, not avoiding it.
Begin forwarded message:
> From: Nathan Rickuss
> Date: 11 February 2010 11:10:59 PM
> Subject: 00 - 2010/02/11 2:30pm Church & Ministry - Duncan Corby
>
> What makes church "church".
>
> Is it possible to have church online?
>
> Exercise.
>
> What do you have to have in the life of church to have church.
>
> Gathering of people. For a specific purpose. Teaching, praising/worship, fellowship. Preaching the gospel. Meeting point. Community. Love. Prayer. Diversity. Care for each other. Doctrinal system. Shephard. Growth and change.
>
> Some things are just there as Christians. i.e. Holy spirit, Jesus.
>
> Some things you just need to have an effective church.
>
> Acts 2:46
>
> 1. Worship (prayer, fasting, individual, corporate, engaging towards God)
> 2. Evangelism
> 3. Serving - Jesus characterised himself as a servant.. If you aren't serving, are you christian?
> 4. Discipleship
> 5. Fellowship
> 6. Teaching (communication of the word of God)
> 7. Baptism (Jesus said to go out and baptise)
> 8. Communion (perfectly fine to do communion in connect groups)
> 9. Mission (sense of purpose)
> 10. Leadership
>
> Online church discussion. Only what you type is communicated. How can we have community and relationship without touch. Don't recieve it to the degree you need to call it fellowship.
>
> Overcome the limitations of geography doing whatever you can in an online way.. But *only* because of the limitations.
>
> We do the hard yards to sort out the problems, we won't always be happy with each other.
>
> Online is a tool you use, resource, it's not enough on it's own.
>
> "I've been hurt by church so I'm going to change my theology" - if you got hurt, get back in there and sort it out. Confront the issues so we can be the body, don't disconnect from it. Christ said he will build the church.
>
> Church is not created in *your* image. It's going to confront your issues.
>
> If someone is experiencing isolation the church should try harder, it's not good enough.
>
> Reverse the process with those hurt, build a bridge... Don't go straight to the area hurt. Start talking about their theology and work backwards.
>
> ---
>
> 3:40pm
>
> What makes an effective church.
>
> Where did your list come from?
> *Examples in acts - Biblical precedent
> *Own experience of church, own church.
> *Biblical instructions -> biblical principles
> *what I've been taught
> *experience of a bad/good church
> *example of successful churches
>
> Be aware of how you reached your conclusion.
>
> If you went solely on precedent, you are saying 21st century church should operate like 1st century church.
>
> Principle is they gathered and what they did, not the place.
>
> When you read a verse in context you get a feel for it.
>
> Some things are just historical record. Eg. Paul walked a lot and went on boats, does that mean you can't use a plane?
>
> - What makes it effective
> 3. Ways to evaluate
> 1. Conformity to Biblical pattern?
> 2. Biblical principle and method?
> 3. Biblical principle and Effective method
>
> When you read the bible you discern there's more to it. God loves people, who wants to save people, people full of life, joy, faith, church having an impact. More important than the question of method.
>
> Word of God does not change so the principles do not change but the methods change.
>
> Eg Paul used the method of going into synagogues and preached. They were effective methods in their time, culture and context.
>
> People saying big churches have compromised, watered down etc... If you have quality it will produce quantity... It doesn't have to be either or. Healthy church will produce quantity.
>
> Pursue quality with the expecation it will produce quantity.
>
> ---
Begin forwarded message:
> From: Nathan Rickuss
> Date: 11 February 2010 11:10:59 PM
> Subject: 00 - 2010/02/11 4:30pm Church & Ministry - Duncan Corby
>
> Leadership in the bible
>
> What to look for, for theological foundation
>
> 1. Old testament
> 2. New testament
> - transition from OT to NT (what changed, what stayed the same, why?)
> - NT Examples
> - NT Principle
> 3. Modern Applications
>
> (Notes on portal)
>
> Leadership:
> (Old testament)
> a. All authority from God. Ownership gives authority.
>
> b. God rules the Earth through delegated authority.
>
> If we're made in the image, we rule over something because God rules. Accountable to God.
>
> c. God establishes Hierarchy
> Gen 2
> God made Adam first, gave him rulership
> Eve came after, from and for Adam
> Adam instructed Eve (re; the fruit)
>
> Gen 3
> God dealt with Adam first then "drilled down"
> The curses delivered "up" the hierarchy. (From the snake, to eve, to Adam)
> vv 14-19.
>
> Adam got the harshest.
>
> (Not getting into men and women)
>
> d. The fall corrupted leadership
> Gen 3
> Ruled over yet desire him.
> Man now consumed with his own pain and problems.
>
> Typical key problems of failed leadership.
>
> e. Though fallen, in OT, God still worked through leaders.
> Moses, josh, kings, prophets, foreign rulers. Just because it's broken or corrupted he can use it.
>
> New testament differences
>
> Church is not a nation, like israel.
> Model of "king" does not auto apply.
> Priesthood of all believers (used to be king, priest and prophet)
> Membership is voluntary
> Leader / follower dynamics change, e.g. The types of punishment.
>
> Similarities
> Still through delegated authority
> Still pursues the mission
> Some leader / follower dynamics the same eg. Obedience
>
> 3. New testament examples.
>
> a. Jesus was a leader
> Leadership functions:
> Messiah
> Teacher
> Preacher
> Judge
> Leader of disciples
> Leader of the movement
>
> Mat 7:28-29
>
> Jesus appointed people as leaders, gave them authority.
> Mat 10:1
> Mark 3:14
>
> Peter given a lot of authority.
> Mat 16:18-19
>
> c. The apostles appointed leaders
> Matthias to replace judas
> Seven deacons acts 6
> Paul and Barnabas acts 13
> Appointed elders acts 14:23
> Paul appoints timothy to lead ephesian church
> Apostles leadership Acts 2:42
> Jerusalem council acts 15
> Gentile churches obeyed the council acts 16:4
> Ephesian elders acknowledged pauls role as their leader
>
> e. Paul was a leader
> Paul's roles:
> Apostle
> Teacher and preacher
> Father
> Mentor
> Chief elder
> Appointer and delegator of leaders
> Rebuker, problem-solver, reconciler, defender, fund-raiser.
>
> So how is Christian leadership different to other organizations.
>
> 4. New Testament Principles
> a. Jesus has all authority
> Mat 28:18
>
> b. All human authority is delegated authority
> Mat 8:8-10
>
> Because it's delegated authority, you don't have freedom to do what you want.
> Authority in direct proportion to submission.
> Eg Duncan to Brian to God.
>
> Rom 13:1-2 - rebelling is going against God's authority.
> In submission you can bring something up.
>
> c. NT Leadership is not democratic or a committee
>
> 1. Collective decisions is inviting people without a leadership gift into the leadership process.
>
> Need to look at decisions through leaders eyes.
>
> 2. Understand why they democratic to begin with. Maybe.. protect against abuse of strong leadership. Setups a system to protect from leaderships power by limiting leaderships power. Reduces effectiveness of leadership.
>
> d. Submission and obedience are expected of followers
> Heb 13:17 - obey leaders and submit
> 2 thes 3:14-15
> Rom 13:1
> 1 cor 16:15-16 - submitting to leadership of others.
>
> What about Eph 5:21? Respect and value others.
>
> Be faithful and supportive.
>
> Why do we resist submission? From the fall our demand to have things our way, self centredness. Me-centric.
> Submission to leadership cuts right accross that.
>
> Pursue submission, it will release you from human demandingness to have things your way.
>
> As leaders they must give an account of the other persons life.
>
> e. NT Leadership is Servant - leadership
> Mark 10:42-45
>
> When you lead, it is for the service of others.
>
> - duncan drew a picture
> Pyramid with leader at the top, church is inverted pyramid, senior pastor at the bottom with the lines going up in brackets. Service up, obedience down.
>
> f. Leadership is for the health of the body.
> Heb 13:17
> It is not for the grandisement of the leaders.
>
> g. NT leadership seeks counsel
> Prov 15:22
> Many NT examples.
>
> Eg If elders disagree, pauses and thinks about it seriously. Strong inner security.
>
> h. NT Leadership requires Godly character
> 1 tim 3 qualities of an overseer
> Healthy leaders
> Absolutely essential
>
> i. Leadership is both divine and human
> Rom 12:6-8 - gifted it
> 1 tim 3:1 - inside desiring it
>
> Leadership is always the problem, and leadership is always the solution. - Brian Houston
>
> Some people are not gifted with leadership to run something like a church etc.
>
> You'll end up with a sized church equal to the leadership.
>
> God operates through leadership.
Begin forwarded message:
> From: Nathan Rickuss
> Date: 20 February 2010 9:44:27 AM
> Subject: 00 - 2010/02/12 - 01:00pm Church in Ministry - Duncan Corby
>
> What happens during a service?
>
> Even from before it starts, things happening.
>
> Door greeter, Individual conversation. Giving value to the person.
>
> Create a space for connecting.
>
> Music to fill the silence, allows people to talk.
>
> Doors open 15 mins before, to build critical mass.
>
> Pre-roll to get focus.
>
> ---
>
> Stage is wide, not deep.
>
> Leadership exerted by the bv's even though you can't hear them. Presence yourself onstage.
>
> Let your exterior reflect the eternally true instead of your internal temporary feelings based on how much sleep you had or last nights pizza.
>
> Asking you to be you but turned up a bit to influence those around you. Not from 0 to 100 but 0 to 15. I have an opportunity to influence people.
>
> Excellence for the sake of no distractions.
>
> Up on screen instead of book to engage and look up.
>
> Mc creates sense of feeling and good times.
>
> Offering to be reminded why.
>
> What is it going to take to build the church? To get them to come back next week and bring their friends.
Begin forwarded message:
> From: Nathan Rickuss
> Date: 20 February 2010 9:44:27 AM
> Subject: 00 - 2010/02/12 - 03:00 pm Church in Ministry - Duncan Corby
>
> Find someone who speaks a different language
>
> "I am hungry, Where can I get a pizza?"
>
> Onaka sueta, pizza wa doko de, kaimasu ka?
>
> ---
>
> It's better to stop while people want more than going to long and people wishing it finished 5-10 minutes ago.
>
> ---
>
> Assessment
> 'What makes a church'?
>
> Due 1st of march
>
> Part 3 find someone from another church if you're from hillsong.
>
> I.E. Potential weakness of hillsong, large group can get lost.
>
> References that justify why to do it in a church environment.
>
> ---
>
> Serving
>
> Biblical principles:
>
> 1. Human Potential is Fulfilled in Serving
> Mark 10:43-45 - anyone who wants to be great, let me tell you how. He wants you to be great.
>
> Lived for the sake of others.
>
> A greatness of character and beyond not of proficiency.
>
> 2. Serving Others is Serving the Lord
> Rom 12:11
>
> Serving the Lord looks like serving others and nothing else.
>
> People don't always notice, not always thankful and may slam you if you get it wrong but it's ok. You've done it for Him
>
> 3. Serving *IS* Freedom
> Gal 5:13-14
> Doing whatever you want is not freedom, you're consumed with your own agenda trying to shape things to what you want, when you want it, locked into a slave to trying to get what you want.
>
> 4. We Are All Equipped to Serve
> 1 Cor 12:7 - for the *common* good.
>
> 5. Move from Receiving to Giving
> Acts 20:35
>
> Get to the point where you are self-sustaining and being able to give to others.
Begin forwarded message:
> From: Nathan Rickuss
> Date: 20 February 2010 9:44:27 AM
> Subject: 00 - 2010/02/12 - 08:30 am pastoral care meeting
>
> Wendy Kelly - funerals, sicknesses
> Judith McGhie- baby dedications, weddings
>
> But they both do both.
>
> Pastoral care students:
> Charlene
> Aaron - cali
> Nadine - switz
> Mana
> Nathan
> Danilla - switz
> Tyson - qld coast
> Demaris
>
> -
> Katie
> Magdalene
>
> ----
> Pastoral Care should reflect a strong functional family. I.e. If that was your child or mother what would you do?
>
> Not leave any gaps
>
> Where is pastoral
>
> Case Management - a person with needs, don't think of them as a case.
>
> Evaluate how to care for that person. Wholistic, not just counselling, coming to church, worship, a meal.
>
> How best to care for them, either individual or as a family.
>
> Homecare. We are family to them.
>
> Practical care, spiritual help, social connection. Working through that persons cg or cg leader.
>
> People may need external professional help. Citycare is part of the pastoral care.
>
> Jo White @ citycare organizes the counselling.
>
> Replicating care across different levels won't help.
>
> Prayer requests through church as a pastoral tool.
>
> Praying for people just before they go into surgery.
>
> Pastoral care is 24/7
>
> If they don't have any family support we try to be there after the surgery as well. (Fill the gaps).
>
> If it's the key family member in hospital what does the rest of the family need? Help there as well.
>
> Monthly healing meeting - thurs 25th feb 7:30pm
>
> Crisis situations, death, accidents, mostly bereavements.
>
> *grief*
>
> Grief is an ongoing process and can go on for years. We are with them until that sense of crisis is gone. Some take longer than others.
>
> Even if you don't have any answers, biblical or theological answers to why.. They need love, someone alongside them.. Not a bible study at that time.
>
> Accompany people to the morgue etc and not be shocked.
>
> All you have to do is love them and accept them where they are at.
>
> Grief is more like chaos theory than seven stages.
>
> Deaths. We go there straight away.
>
> To absolutely always be there.
>
> Being in contact with a funeral director is very good and helpful.
>
> Good to be with the family when the funeral director is there. Make the director aware that you're not charging a fee otherwise they'll include it. Help manage the flow of people.
>
> Don't be afraid to ask the story of how, where were they? It can help them to normalize. Gives them a chance to share. Don't have to have answers but questions are good.
>
> When the funeral is over stay in contact with the family.
>
> ----
>
> Births - kind of involved mixed kids ministry "Miracle 139" - from conception to birth. Building community and educating.
>
> Supporting people.
>
> Pregnant Nights, pamper the girls. Guys connect with other guys in similar situations.
>
> Some withdraw from church during pregnancy but we have lots of support, parents room etc.
>
> Training days after birth for the mothers during like sisterhood.
>
> Check up on the mums.
>
> We can not be judgmental at all. Where they are at is where they are at. Acknowledge what they are thinking, we don't dictate how to live their lives.
>
> Baby gifts. Flowers, cards etc.
>
> You become unshockable but not lose your heart.
>
> Dating and engagements.
>
> Delay the physical side for as long as possible. You're giving away part of yourself that you want to give to your future married partner.
>
> Physical also changes the focus of it.
>
> "Preparing for Marriage"
>
> "101 questions to ask before you get engaged"
>
> Dating/engagement period is a period of discovery.
>
> Pre-marriage course the sooner the better. "Making marriage better" 8 week sessions + 5 session one on one "prepare".
>
> There's 50 years of marriage after the wedding day that is all very important.
>
> --
>
> Not everyone will like you. They may criticize you
>
> Adv. Dip counselling.
>
> Confrontation
>
> "How to be a people helper" chapman
>
> Be aware of people's body language and reactions.
> ---
>
> Weddings, legal doc 1 month and a day before the wedding "intent to get married"... An ordained minister needs to apply for a marriage license. Any pastor can marry but but not officially.
>
> 3 grounds for divorce
> Abondonment
> Sexual immorality
> Severe physical abuse
>
> ACC marriage divorce policy.
>
> ----
>
> Normal week (no such thing)
> Tuesday staff meeting
> Pastoral care meeting
> Dept. Meetings.
>
> Weds
> Compile report to brian
> Appointments
>
> Thurs
> Sisterhood
> Appointments
>
> Fri
> Appointments
> Visits
>
> Sat
> Weddings
>
> "Service active" come to church, not connected.
>
> "Ministry active"
>
> How do we evaluate if effective? Seeing them grow, working ourselves out of a job.
Begin forwarded message:
> From: Nathan Rickuss
> Date: 20 February 2010 9:44:27 AM
> Subject: 00 - 2010/02/12 - 11:00am - chapel - steve?
>
> Burwood extension pastor
> Phil 3 - I press on to reach the end of the race.
>
> Lifting people up. Upwards. Go forward and upward.
>
> Bring up to a higher level.
>
> Engage with God and he will lift you.
>
> If human nature without God is left alone, it will gravitate you down. Settle, sit back.
>
> You need to activate God's lift by faith.
>
> God instructs us to do something.
>
> To be lifted up there's things you'll have to give up.
>
> Continue to let God have control.
>
> 1. God wants to lift your voice.
> Draw a "v" on your thumb.
> Are you raising your voice to raise other people's life?
> Set your course by your words.
> Think of your words in the last week, month, year... What has been the pattern? Where you are at now is because of your words.
> Prov 2:3, prov 8:1
>
> 2. Lift your head. Your thought life.
> Is 55
> Let the mind of the Master, be the master of your mind.
> Are your thoughts healthy? Positive, hopeful.
> Lift up your chin, walk with confidence.
>
> 3. lift up your heart.
> Eph 3:20
> Your heart is full of courage and boldness.
>
> 4. Hands
> Ps 63:4 - lift up my hands in your name.
> Increase in your productivity.
> Lion King monkey holding up the baby lion, like God lifting you up. Don't lift up your hands in anger or wrath.
>
> 5. Lift up your eyes.
> What do you see for 2010.
> The difference is focus, what you're focusing on you will see everywhere.
> Our eyes effect what we see and what we're looking for and where we are heading.
Begin forwarded message:
> From: Nathan Rickuss
> Date: 20 February 2010 9:44:27 AM
> Subject: 00 - 2010/02/16 - 09:45am Personal Leadership - Duncan Corby
>
> Foundation for your other subjects.
>
> Invest into it.
>
> As leaders live lives that are above average.
>
> Burj dubai tower almost twice as big as the other tall towers.
>
> Good foundations to build something that tall.
>
> The strength of your foundations will determine your strength and resilience.
>
> Iceberg analogy. 80% of their l
