2008年9月17日 星期三
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完美主義者與出離心
在日常生活中，我們常遇到令自己不舒服或感到生氣的人事物，是否表示我們內心有預設立場，有所期待，而這些令人不悅、討厭或憤怒的人事物，其實只是不符期待罷了。
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宗薩欽哲仁波切開示：「完美主義者與出離心」
在佛教裡，出離有很多種含義和解釋，我遇到的很多人都把佛教的出離理解為遠離人世，就像悉達多太子曾經做過的那樣，不過這種解釋容易把尚未準備好的人嚇跑，佛陀並不打算剃光每個追隨者的腦袋。
對於生活在城市裏，喝桶裝水，每天坐地鐵上下班的人來說，悉達多的出離在多數時候只能是一種遙遠的夢想。他們可能並沒有太多的選擇餘地。如果你想修行佛法的話，你可能只能在這樣的環境裏修，在地鐵裏，在公司裏，在下班的路上，在晚飯之後。但你同樣可以出離，要知道，出離心並不只有一種表現形式。
如果你想知道自己是否具有出離心，可以以這種方法檢驗：在過去對你很重要的一件事，現在是否對你一點都不重要，過去可以輕易激怒你的事，現在你是否毫不在乎。如果是的話，那麼你就從這裏出離了。你需要出離的東西很多，並不只是不抽煙不喝酒或不打牌，那只是開始。
所謂出離，就是不再執著過去執著的事物。當你不再執著一件事物或一種習慣，它就失去了指揮擺布你的能力。你也就獲得了自由。從這個意義上來說，你必須出離所有的事物，才能獲得徹底的自由，我這裏所說的所有的事物當然不止是那些看得見摸得著的東西，也包括很多細微的東西。
例如，如果你看到一個觀點，這個觀點令你不舒服，那麼說明你執著於一個相反的觀點。這個觀點奴役著你，所以你會不舒服。這樣的事情也應該出離。不管這個相反的觀點正確與否，或是誰所說，如果他可以讓你不舒服，那你已經被攻陷，你都應該從那裏出離。
應該指出的是，佛教所有的觀點都是為了破除另一些觀點而出現，但它不應該成為你的新主人。你也許經常會變得很生氣，那是因為你的生活裏總是出現與你所預期的相反的東西。
例如，你請的臨時工可能讓你非常不舒服，僅僅是因為她擦桌子的方式與你不同，你很不喜歡她那種看上去非常笨拙的擦法。甚至有時候你在街上看見一些打扮誇張把頭髮染成綠色的人也會生氣。那是因為你執著於古老的審美觀。
要擺脫這種不爽的心態，有兩種方法，一種是你改變心態，不再執著於每個人必須按照你的方式去做事的想法。還有一個就是換一個擦桌子的方式和你所期待的一樣的臨時工。
很顯然，前者是一勞永逸的方法（佛教用的就是這種方法）。後者只能暫時解決問題，你可能必須不斷地更換臨時工（這也是很多人不斷更換老公的原因）。你可能花了很多時間找到一個照你說的方式去擦桌子的臨時工，但你很快會發現，她上廁所的時候居然忘了沖馬桶。
因此，試圖以改變外在的世界來追求完美是徒勞無功的。永遠會有你意想不到的事情出現，把毫無準備的你激怒。你有多少執著，就有多少痛苦，要擺脫痛苦，你必須從所有的執著裏出離。
當你生氣的時候你應該看一下自己的心，為什麼會生氣。是否因為出現了與你期待正相反的東西。你的期待，就是你所執著的東西。
佛陀不會被任何事情激怒，因為他出離了所有的執著。你可能因為任何事情生氣，你可能因為公共汽車開的太慢而生氣，可能因為找不到所需要的東西而生氣（她把東西放哪了？她總是亂放東西），甚至可能因為你想讓他生氣的人不生氣而生氣。這說明你非常脆弱。你很容易被激怒。
在經過一段時間的修行之後，你可能還是未能了悟空性，也不知道金剛經在說什麼。但你還是和過去有所不同，過去你是個追求完美的人，而現在你已經可以容許很多不完美的事在自己的生活中出現。例如，你可以吃一道比較鹹的菜而不會抱怨。
所謂完美主義者，也就是說，你希望所有的事情都要達到你所希望的樣子，你希望住在牆壁是天藍色的屋子裏（如果不是，你就會睡不著覺），你不喝桶裝水之外的任何水，你希望用自己喜歡的杯子喝茶，希望茶的味道不要太濃也不要太淡。
做一個完美主義者的壞處就是，你會經常痛苦，因為這個世界上多數事情都不會輕易俯首聽命，它們不會事事順著你。要讓他們達到你所希望的樣子，你必須花很多時間。很多人試圖創造完美的世界，不過他們最終都被證明失敗了。
事實上，只要把你的心稍作調整，一切都會很完美。
你之所以看到的是一個不完美的世界，是因為你有各種執著和不切實際的期待，如果你可以從這裡出離，你會變得非常強大，你不再堅持必須住在有藍色牆壁的屋子裡，不再堅持必須喝桶裝水，不再堅持必須用自己喜歡的杯子喝水，不再堅持茶的味道必須不濃不淡。
如果你出離了所有的執著，那麼你就會變得非常自由，沒有任何事情可以激怒你或傷害你。
對於這一點，與大家分享一篇文章。歡迎大家共同討論，分享經驗與想法。
=============================================================
宗薩欽哲仁波切開示：「完美主義者與出離心」
在佛教裡，出離有很多種含義和解釋，我遇到的很多人都把佛教的出離理解為遠離人世，就像悉達多太子曾經做過的那樣，不過這種解釋容易把尚未準備好的人嚇跑，佛陀並不打算剃光每個追隨者的腦袋。
對於生活在城市裏，喝桶裝水，每天坐地鐵上下班的人來說，悉達多的出離在多數時候只能是一種遙遠的夢想。他們可能並沒有太多的選擇餘地。如果你想修行佛法的話，你可能只能在這樣的環境裏修，在地鐵裏，在公司裏，在下班的路上，在晚飯之後。但你同樣可以出離，要知道，出離心並不只有一種表現形式。
如果你想知道自己是否具有出離心，可以以這種方法檢驗：在過去對你很重要的一件事，現在是否對你一點都不重要，過去可以輕易激怒你的事，現在你是否毫不在乎。如果是的話，那麼你就從這裏出離了。你需要出離的東西很多，並不只是不抽煙不喝酒或不打牌，那只是開始。
所謂出離，就是不再執著過去執著的事物。當你不再執著一件事物或一種習慣，它就失去了指揮擺布你的能力。你也就獲得了自由。從這個意義上來說，你必須出離所有的事物，才能獲得徹底的自由，我這裏所說的所有的事物當然不止是那些看得見摸得著的東西，也包括很多細微的東西。
例如，如果你看到一個觀點，這個觀點令你不舒服，那麼說明你執著於一個相反的觀點。這個觀點奴役著你，所以你會不舒服。這樣的事情也應該出離。不管這個相反的觀點正確與否，或是誰所說，如果他可以讓你不舒服，那你已經被攻陷，你都應該從那裏出離。
應該指出的是，佛教所有的觀點都是為了破除另一些觀點而出現，但它不應該成為你的新主人。你也許經常會變得很生氣，那是因為你的生活裏總是出現與你所預期的相反的東西。
例如，你請的臨時工可能讓你非常不舒服，僅僅是因為她擦桌子的方式與你不同，你很不喜歡她那種看上去非常笨拙的擦法。甚至有時候你在街上看見一些打扮誇張把頭髮染成綠色的人也會生氣。那是因為你執著於古老的審美觀。
要擺脫這種不爽的心態，有兩種方法，一種是你改變心態，不再執著於每個人必須按照你的方式去做事的想法。還有一個就是換一個擦桌子的方式和你所期待的一樣的臨時工。
很顯然，前者是一勞永逸的方法（佛教用的就是這種方法）。後者只能暫時解決問題，你可能必須不斷地更換臨時工（這也是很多人不斷更換老公的原因）。你可能花了很多時間找到一個照你說的方式去擦桌子的臨時工，但你很快會發現，她上廁所的時候居然忘了沖馬桶。
因此，試圖以改變外在的世界來追求完美是徒勞無功的。永遠會有你意想不到的事情出現，把毫無準備的你激怒。你有多少執著，就有多少痛苦，要擺脫痛苦，你必須從所有的執著裏出離。
當你生氣的時候你應該看一下自己的心，為什麼會生氣。是否因為出現了與你期待正相反的東西。你的期待，就是你所執著的東西。
佛陀不會被任何事情激怒，因為他出離了所有的執著。你可能因為任何事情生氣，你可能因為公共汽車開的太慢而生氣，可能因為找不到所需要的東西而生氣（她把東西放哪了？她總是亂放東西），甚至可能因為你想讓他生氣的人不生氣而生氣。這說明你非常脆弱。你很容易被激怒。
在經過一段時間的修行之後，你可能還是未能了悟空性，也不知道金剛經在說什麼。但你還是和過去有所不同，過去你是個追求完美的人，而現在你已經可以容許很多不完美的事在自己的生活中出現。例如，你可以吃一道比較鹹的菜而不會抱怨。
所謂完美主義者，也就是說，你希望所有的事情都要達到你所希望的樣子，你希望住在牆壁是天藍色的屋子裏（如果不是，你就會睡不著覺），你不喝桶裝水之外的任何水，你希望用自己喜歡的杯子喝茶，希望茶的味道不要太濃也不要太淡。
做一個完美主義者的壞處就是，你會經常痛苦，因為這個世界上多數事情都不會輕易俯首聽命，它們不會事事順著你。要讓他們達到你所希望的樣子，你必須花很多時間。很多人試圖創造完美的世界，不過他們最終都被證明失敗了。
事實上，只要把你的心稍作調整，一切都會很完美。
你之所以看到的是一個不完美的世界，是因為你有各種執著和不切實際的期待，如果你可以從這裡出離，你會變得非常強大，你不再堅持必須住在有藍色牆壁的屋子裡，不再堅持必須喝桶裝水，不再堅持必須用自己喜歡的杯子喝水，不再堅持茶的味道必須不濃不淡。
如果你出離了所有的執著，那麼你就會變得非常自由，沒有任何事情可以激怒你或傷害你。
a book's summary- judgement
來讀書吧--做對決斷！－領導學之父班尼斯教你如何做對人事、策略與危機》精選書摘
分類：來讀書吧
2008/02/29 10:37
不斷變動的的商業世界，再成功的企業都要不斷思考下一步的策略。領導贏家勇於做出策略決斷，讓組織不斷在「改變」中持續成長。領導大師／班尼斯在《做對決斷！》中舉出奇異、戴爾、百勝餐飲等案例，告訴你「策略決斷」的實作技巧。
策略決斷
2001年9月，威爾許將奇異公司執行長一職移交給伊梅特時，奇異是世界上最有價值和最具競爭力的企業。
威爾許擔任執行長的20年間，奇異的表現大幅超前整體經濟，為奇異創造接近4,000億美元的新市場價值。威爾許為自己的離去預先做好安排，確保公司的盈餘還會繼續成長。
雖然如此，伊梅特卻知道，他的工作是大刀闊斧改革。如果他只是不著邊際的四處敲打修補，而且只顧把奇異目前的經營模式運轉得更好，公司的卓越地位恐怕保持不了多久。
伊梅特一路親受威爾許的指導和栽培。他贏得這個最高階職位，主要是因為他是成功的變革推手。
2001年9月7日，伊梅特正式擔任奇異執行長。四天後，恐怖份子攻擊美國。短短幾個小時，幾乎每個層面、每個假設、全球經濟和地緣政治生活的未來方向都變了調，也普遍被質疑。
伊梅特早已知道他的工作是改變奇異，但是911事件，更加凸顯這方面的迫切需要。
「我在907上任，四天後發生911。我目不轉睛看著，那真是難以形容的悲劇。我看到使用我們引擎的飛機，撞向我們承保的建築物。」伊梅特說。
這天起，伊梅特塑造他的策略決斷，領導奇異踏進21世紀。其中關鍵要素是，單單做為一家出色的公司是不夠的。奇異需要承先啟後，並回饋它在世界各地有設廠的社會和社區。它需要投入更多的心力，為全球各地經營據點所在社區，謀取更廣泛的利益。他做了策略決斷，奇異將投入更大的心力當全球的企業公民。
制定策略，是領導人擘畫成功故事大綱下，永無止盡的工作。它很少是「啊哈，我知道了！」那種頓時豁然開朗的清楚願景。
它是起點一片模糊，然後往前演變的故事，就像伊梅特走馬上任時的情況。它需要不斷修正，每一次做了策略決斷，才變得更加清楚。每一次花大錢收購其他的企業或縮編結構，或者做出大手筆投資於研究發展的決斷，便會改變公司的定位和未來的可能性。
伊梅特做出決斷，奇異醫療事業部以接近100億美元的價格，收購安瑪西亞（Amer-sham）的行動，反映他以明天的個人化醫療技術為核心，建立醫療業務的故事大綱。他體現了自己撰擬的故事大綱：這項收購行動，和他希望公司業務走向之處吻合。
這個決斷接著建立起一個流程，以始料未及的新方式，改造醫療業務；他收購安瑪西亞的決斷，為奇異的未來寫下另一章。
伊梅特明白表示，做策略決斷，以及選才用人和處理危機，是他最重要的工作。他必須好好執行策略以贏得勝利，但在變動不停的世界中，他認為制定策略一樣重要。
「談到策略和挑選業務，今天比以前重要，」2004年，他向一群商學院學生表示。「如果你是奇異的董事長，那就得花很多時間去思考業務問題，思考要選擇哪些業務，是要投資醫療事業，還是投資娛樂事業。奇異的業務要如何才算出色，我們有很清楚的標準。」
他接著表示：「但是談到策略這個概念，以我們置身其中的環境來說，執行得再怎麼好，運轉得再怎麼好，都救不了策略有瑕疵的業務。所以，你得花時間去了解你認為什麼業務可行、什麼經營模式比較可行。總之，策略比以前重要。」（摘自本書）
分類：來讀書吧
2008/02/29 10:37
不斷變動的的商業世界，再成功的企業都要不斷思考下一步的策略。領導贏家勇於做出策略決斷，讓組織不斷在「改變」中持續成長。領導大師／班尼斯在《做對決斷！》中舉出奇異、戴爾、百勝餐飲等案例，告訴你「策略決斷」的實作技巧。
策略決斷
2001年9月，威爾許將奇異公司執行長一職移交給伊梅特時，奇異是世界上最有價值和最具競爭力的企業。
威爾許擔任執行長的20年間，奇異的表現大幅超前整體經濟，為奇異創造接近4,000億美元的新市場價值。威爾許為自己的離去預先做好安排，確保公司的盈餘還會繼續成長。
雖然如此，伊梅特卻知道，他的工作是大刀闊斧改革。如果他只是不著邊際的四處敲打修補，而且只顧把奇異目前的經營模式運轉得更好，公司的卓越地位恐怕保持不了多久。
伊梅特一路親受威爾許的指導和栽培。他贏得這個最高階職位，主要是因為他是成功的變革推手。
2001年9月7日，伊梅特正式擔任奇異執行長。四天後，恐怖份子攻擊美國。短短幾個小時，幾乎每個層面、每個假設、全球經濟和地緣政治生活的未來方向都變了調，也普遍被質疑。
伊梅特早已知道他的工作是改變奇異，但是911事件，更加凸顯這方面的迫切需要。
「我在907上任，四天後發生911。我目不轉睛看著，那真是難以形容的悲劇。我看到使用我們引擎的飛機，撞向我們承保的建築物。」伊梅特說。
這天起，伊梅特塑造他的策略決斷，領導奇異踏進21世紀。其中關鍵要素是，單單做為一家出色的公司是不夠的。奇異需要承先啟後，並回饋它在世界各地有設廠的社會和社區。它需要投入更多的心力，為全球各地經營據點所在社區，謀取更廣泛的利益。他做了策略決斷，奇異將投入更大的心力當全球的企業公民。
制定策略，是領導人擘畫成功故事大綱下，永無止盡的工作。它很少是「啊哈，我知道了！」那種頓時豁然開朗的清楚願景。
它是起點一片模糊，然後往前演變的故事，就像伊梅特走馬上任時的情況。它需要不斷修正，每一次做了策略決斷，才變得更加清楚。每一次花大錢收購其他的企業或縮編結構，或者做出大手筆投資於研究發展的決斷，便會改變公司的定位和未來的可能性。
伊梅特做出決斷，奇異醫療事業部以接近100億美元的價格，收購安瑪西亞（Amer-sham）的行動，反映他以明天的個人化醫療技術為核心，建立醫療業務的故事大綱。他體現了自己撰擬的故事大綱：這項收購行動，和他希望公司業務走向之處吻合。
這個決斷接著建立起一個流程，以始料未及的新方式，改造醫療業務；他收購安瑪西亞的決斷，為奇異的未來寫下另一章。
伊梅特明白表示，做策略決斷，以及選才用人和處理危機，是他最重要的工作。他必須好好執行策略以贏得勝利，但在變動不停的世界中，他認為制定策略一樣重要。
「談到策略和挑選業務，今天比以前重要，」2004年，他向一群商學院學生表示。「如果你是奇異的董事長，那就得花很多時間去思考業務問題，思考要選擇哪些業務，是要投資醫療事業，還是投資娛樂事業。奇異的業務要如何才算出色，我們有很清楚的標準。」
他接著表示：「但是談到策略這個概念，以我們置身其中的環境來說，執行得再怎麼好，運轉得再怎麼好，都救不了策略有瑕疵的業務。所以，你得花時間去了解你認為什麼業務可行、什麼經營模式比較可行。總之，策略比以前重要。」（摘自本書）
why can angels fly?
天使為什麼能夠飛? 世界上的很多事情是說不清楚的。
在一家醫學院學習的梅子居然和她的另外5位寢友到了同一所醫院實習。 因為她們學習的專業相同，她們都被安排在婦產科實習。 在學校能夠一起學習生活，實習又能夠在一起，這讓6姐妹非常歡喜。
但沒有多久，一個問題殘酷地擺到 6姐妹面前，這所醫院最後只能留用其中一人。能夠留在這所省內最高等級的醫院是6姐妹的共同渴望，但她們不得不面對「有你無我，有我無你」的殘酷競爭與淘汰。臨近畢業的日子越來越近，6姐妹的較量也越來越激烈，但她們始終相互激勵著，相互祝福著。
院方為了確定哪一名被留用，舉行了一次考核，結果出來了，面對同樣出色的6姐妹，院方一時也不知道該如何取捨。 但現實是，院方只能夠留用一人。 6姐妹中，開始有人表示自己家在外省，更喜歡畢業後能夠回到家鄉；有的人乾脆說家鄉的小縣城已經有醫院同意接收她 ……美麗的謊言感動著一個又一個人。
這天，6姐妹都突然接到一個相同的緊急通知，一名待產婦就要生產，醫院需要立刻前往她家中救治。 6姐妹急匆匆地上了急救車。
一名副院長、一名主任醫生、 6名實習醫生、2名護士同時去搶救一名待產婦，如此隆重的陣勢讓6姐妹都感覺到一種前所未有的緊張。 有人悄悄地問院長，是什麼樣的人物，需要這樣興師動眾? 院長簡單地解釋道： 「這名產婦的身分和情況都有些特殊，讓你們都來，也是想讓你們都不要錯過這個機會，你們可都要認真觀察學習。」 車內一片沉寂。待產婦家很偏僻，急救車左拐右拐終於到達時，待產婦已經折騰得滿頭汗水。
醫護人員七手八腳把待產婦抬上急救車後，發現了一個問題，車上已經人擠人，待產婦的丈夫上不來了。 人們知道，待產婦到達醫院進行搶救，是不能沒有親屬在身邊辦理一些相關手續的。 人們都下意識地看向副院長，副院長低頭為待產婦檢查著，頭都未抬地說道：「快開車!」 所有人都怔住了。不知道該如何是好。
這時候，梅子突然跳下了車，示意待產婦的丈夫上車。
急救車風馳電掣地開往醫院，等梅子氣喘吁吁趕回到醫院的時候，已經是半小時後了。 在醫院門口，她被參加急救的副院長攔住了，副院長問她：「這麼難得的學習機會，你為什麼跳下了車?」 梅子擦著額頭的汗水回答道：「車上有那麼多醫生、護士，缺少我不會影響搶救的。但沒有病人家屬，可能會給搶救帶來必要的影響。」
3天後，院方的留用結果出來了，梅子成為幸運者。
院長說出了理由：「 3天前的那一場急救是一場意外的測試。 將來無論你們走到哪裡，無論從事什麼職業，都應該記住一句話，天使能夠飛翔，是因為把自己看得很輕。」 天使為什麼會飛翔？是因為它把自己看得很輕。
相信嗎！人如果能拋卻自我 拋卻世間所有負擔與束縛 也同樣的會很輕… 也同樣的能夠飛翔... .................. 現在做不到 是因為不相信！是因為還有強大的自我！ 美麗不是一種錯誤，問題在於如何呈現美麗； 財富不是一種罪惡，問題在於如何使用財富； 智慧不是一種負擔，問題在於如何運用智慧； 選舉不是一種過錯，問題在於如何選賢舉能； 成就夥伴不是一種陷害，問題在於如何支持夥伴； 成就團體不是一種勉強，問題在於如何提升團體。 對於對的事勇於承擔與完成， 不必因為別人的道德潔癖或毀譽而改變初衷； 對於錯的事勇於拒絕與捨棄， 不必因為他人的偏執遊說或認同而隨波逐流； 對於美好的事積極追求成就， 不必遷就道德潔癖而懷疑自己堅持的道路與方向。 生命的有限，提醒我們及時行善； 生命的價值，在付出之後被顯現； 生命的真諦，在自己 的覺知與無悔； 生命的意義，在創造宇宙繼起之生命。
在一家醫學院學習的梅子居然和她的另外5位寢友到了同一所醫院實習。 因為她們學習的專業相同，她們都被安排在婦產科實習。 在學校能夠一起學習生活，實習又能夠在一起，這讓6姐妹非常歡喜。
但沒有多久，一個問題殘酷地擺到 6姐妹面前，這所醫院最後只能留用其中一人。能夠留在這所省內最高等級的醫院是6姐妹的共同渴望，但她們不得不面對「有你無我，有我無你」的殘酷競爭與淘汰。臨近畢業的日子越來越近，6姐妹的較量也越來越激烈，但她們始終相互激勵著，相互祝福著。
院方為了確定哪一名被留用，舉行了一次考核，結果出來了，面對同樣出色的6姐妹，院方一時也不知道該如何取捨。 但現實是，院方只能夠留用一人。 6姐妹中，開始有人表示自己家在外省，更喜歡畢業後能夠回到家鄉；有的人乾脆說家鄉的小縣城已經有醫院同意接收她 ……美麗的謊言感動著一個又一個人。
這天，6姐妹都突然接到一個相同的緊急通知，一名待產婦就要生產，醫院需要立刻前往她家中救治。 6姐妹急匆匆地上了急救車。
一名副院長、一名主任醫生、 6名實習醫生、2名護士同時去搶救一名待產婦，如此隆重的陣勢讓6姐妹都感覺到一種前所未有的緊張。 有人悄悄地問院長，是什麼樣的人物，需要這樣興師動眾? 院長簡單地解釋道： 「這名產婦的身分和情況都有些特殊，讓你們都來，也是想讓你們都不要錯過這個機會，你們可都要認真觀察學習。」 車內一片沉寂。待產婦家很偏僻，急救車左拐右拐終於到達時，待產婦已經折騰得滿頭汗水。
醫護人員七手八腳把待產婦抬上急救車後，發現了一個問題，車上已經人擠人，待產婦的丈夫上不來了。 人們知道，待產婦到達醫院進行搶救，是不能沒有親屬在身邊辦理一些相關手續的。 人們都下意識地看向副院長，副院長低頭為待產婦檢查著，頭都未抬地說道：「快開車!」 所有人都怔住了。不知道該如何是好。
這時候，梅子突然跳下了車，示意待產婦的丈夫上車。
急救車風馳電掣地開往醫院，等梅子氣喘吁吁趕回到醫院的時候，已經是半小時後了。 在醫院門口，她被參加急救的副院長攔住了，副院長問她：「這麼難得的學習機會，你為什麼跳下了車?」 梅子擦著額頭的汗水回答道：「車上有那麼多醫生、護士，缺少我不會影響搶救的。但沒有病人家屬，可能會給搶救帶來必要的影響。」
3天後，院方的留用結果出來了，梅子成為幸運者。
院長說出了理由：「 3天前的那一場急救是一場意外的測試。 將來無論你們走到哪裡，無論從事什麼職業，都應該記住一句話，天使能夠飛翔，是因為把自己看得很輕。」 天使為什麼會飛翔？是因為它把自己看得很輕。
相信嗎！人如果能拋卻自我 拋卻世間所有負擔與束縛 也同樣的會很輕… 也同樣的能夠飛翔... .................. 現在做不到 是因為不相信！是因為還有強大的自我！ 美麗不是一種錯誤，問題在於如何呈現美麗； 財富不是一種罪惡，問題在於如何使用財富； 智慧不是一種負擔，問題在於如何運用智慧； 選舉不是一種過錯，問題在於如何選賢舉能； 成就夥伴不是一種陷害，問題在於如何支持夥伴； 成就團體不是一種勉強，問題在於如何提升團體。 對於對的事勇於承擔與完成， 不必因為別人的道德潔癖或毀譽而改變初衷； 對於錯的事勇於拒絕與捨棄， 不必因為他人的偏執遊說或認同而隨波逐流； 對於美好的事積極追求成就， 不必遷就道德潔癖而懷疑自己堅持的道路與方向。 生命的有限，提醒我們及時行善； 生命的價值，在付出之後被顯現； 生命的真諦，在自己 的覺知與無悔； 生命的意義，在創造宇宙繼起之生命。
2008年8月22日 星期五
another relationship or just another game?
I am not even so sure why myself has choose to be with him while I sensationally aware that I am not that crazy about him. The feeling was completely different from when I was with Phil, I could talk with him freely and just simply ask the questions I want to. Is it because I do fully understand what I am doing and know how it is going to end? But I did know Phil was not for me from the very beginning and look at the fact that I did not feel that strong for Phil either at first but somehow for some unknown reason I had been trying to pursued myself to. Am I going to do the same thig over again with Da-shuan? How exactly do I feel about Da-shuan? Are you sure he has been trying to cheat on you even not consciously? u call yourself an idealist and pursuing the eternal love and relationship but what u are doing to yourself right now is totally opposite, are you sure you are not out of conscious or entirely lost again? Wasn;t he trying to convince yourself and even himself to live at presence in order to give himself a reason to betray his wife? How do you know he has only made an exception for you? Sharlin please stay fully conscious and sensible on this matter as you know you have no time either energy to bear any heartbroken. You are young and fairly attractive, why will you ever choose to stuck yourself with a man, who is not your type? Do you fully believe in what he has told you? Maybe he even lied to himself anyway so how do you be so certain he is not lying on you? So tell me what I shall do next? Stop from seeing him? Is that what you want? But he is at least right with one thing that he does make slightly more effort to speak with me…particularly rare for someone like him who is so devoted into his career. Confront your own feeling, if you want to do it, just do it but promise me one thing that don’t put yourself in trouble anymore. Just have a fun time and enjoy yourself. Follow your heart and stay focused on your future. Just remember life is all about the choices you have made for yourself , on the other word life is what you have drawn to yourself. If you want to be happy, just think you are happy.. live from your dream and make the best out of every single moment. It is my moment, it is my perfect moment with you.
Ps. His son’s name is also ryan, what a small world!! I sincerely hope both of the ryan I have known in my life would be happy ever after and dream will come true for them.
Ps. His son’s name is also ryan, what a small world!! I sincerely hope both of the ryan I have known in my life would be happy ever after and dream will come true for them.
2008年8月12日 星期二
To Phil
Dear Phil
as i have tried to avoid of keeping regular contact with you but still have so many things i must confess, writting on blog is probably the only way to express myself.
sorry i did not mean to reply you short but whenever i think about you, the scar in my heart is burning me badly, which i have to run away for a brief break. whenever i think about you, tears will drop down immediately. i don;t know how much longer it will take me to forget you and treat u only as a friend but from this moment i must stay away from you before i kill myself.
in every relationship there is always a pitfall which both people must cope with together. as both of us have agreed, nothing is going to be perfect so two options for you. one is to make compromise or cut off this relationship. it can be as simple as picking up one but u will probably reply me saying is much easier than doing. but look at me i told u that i would try to lighten our relationship and move on..here i am. i have been moving on even i had spent a few nights crashed down my knees and crying so hard in the corner. life is all about the choices you make and now u are just in one of the crossroad of the life so be brave my boy.
as i have tried to avoid of keeping regular contact with you but still have so many things i must confess, writting on blog is probably the only way to express myself.
sorry i did not mean to reply you short but whenever i think about you, the scar in my heart is burning me badly, which i have to run away for a brief break. whenever i think about you, tears will drop down immediately. i don;t know how much longer it will take me to forget you and treat u only as a friend but from this moment i must stay away from you before i kill myself.
in every relationship there is always a pitfall which both people must cope with together. as both of us have agreed, nothing is going to be perfect so two options for you. one is to make compromise or cut off this relationship. it can be as simple as picking up one but u will probably reply me saying is much easier than doing. but look at me i told u that i would try to lighten our relationship and move on..here i am. i have been moving on even i had spent a few nights crashed down my knees and crying so hard in the corner. life is all about the choices you make and now u are just in one of the crossroad of the life so be brave my boy.
2008年8月8日 星期五
goes back to the foundation of love
because i love you, this is why i want to adore you
that is why i want to spend the most time with you
and willing sacrifice anything no matter what
---from WALL•E
that is why i want to spend the most time with you
and willing sacrifice anything no matter what
---from WALL•E
when you say nothing at all
you wrote to me that you have a tight schedule so would not have the time to chat on line this week and i said to you that tomorrow would be chinese valentine. no more reply from you....when you say nothing at all. i shall have learnt and picked up earlier that what happened between us would eventually became the painful memory you are striving to get rid of. haven;t heard anything from you for two days...i am doing just fine and bearable. taipei's skyline is still so clear and blue without you.
i am getting to forget what it was like to hold your hand, getting to forget how fast my heart was beating when you looked into my eyes, forget how content i felt when you kissed me and embrased me in your arm..maybe it is the best to pretend you had never existed in my life.
i am getting to forget what it was like to hold your hand, getting to forget how fast my heart was beating when you looked into my eyes, forget how content i felt when you kissed me and embrased me in your arm..maybe it is the best to pretend you had never existed in my life.
2008年8月6日 星期三
true love
have always been trying to figure out what love is all about and who will turn out to my true love. some people say happiness is something u have to offer to yourself other than being given to , i would say it is partially right but when i am in love, my happines is all deprived from the one who i am deeply in love with. whenever i looked at him, my heart was so content and the whole world means nothing but just a word to me when he was around. when he holded my hand, i felt i was the luckiest girl in the world and the happiness can never be descriped by words. but he does not love me ...he is not the one who belongs to me but someone else.
please find me a true love, he does not need to be very rich but can offer me the romantic feeling i have always been seeking for
please find me a true love, he does not need to be very rich but can offer me the romantic feeling i have always been seeking for
move on
Dearest sharlin myself
please kindly do yourself a favor to stop bitching yourself by harassing him all the time, where the hell is your dignity? u are a leo, the king of jungle with the full bundle of pride but since you met, all those pride has gone with the wind. what;s wrong with you? from the bottom of your heart you understand you are just wasting your life on someone who will offer you nothing in the future but pain and broken heart so stop it at once. there are so many things in life to appreciate and treasure but maybe he is just not the one for you so why are you still sticking around and wait for someone who can;t even make you being yourself!! leave it as a beautiful memory and only recall it when you are dying. from this moment, only invest your precious time on something/ someone worthy.. move on please, not only for your sake for his as well. don;t try to break his heart or put him in guilt anymore. move on..move on
please kindly do yourself a favor to stop bitching yourself by harassing him all the time, where the hell is your dignity? u are a leo, the king of jungle with the full bundle of pride but since you met, all those pride has gone with the wind. what;s wrong with you? from the bottom of your heart you understand you are just wasting your life on someone who will offer you nothing in the future but pain and broken heart so stop it at once. there are so many things in life to appreciate and treasure but maybe he is just not the one for you so why are you still sticking around and wait for someone who can;t even make you being yourself!! leave it as a beautiful memory and only recall it when you are dying. from this moment, only invest your precious time on something/ someone worthy.. move on please, not only for your sake for his as well. don;t try to break his heart or put him in guilt anymore. move on..move on
2008年7月31日 星期四
shit beginning shall only lead to another great day
just had a fight with Andy again regarding our over priced power wireharness project, gesus christ a sales is not supposed to rely on engineering either purchasing department to give you a realistic price otherwise u are bearing a huge risk to lose the order. but why does Andy change his mind so often, one minute he will be scolding me for digging on cable break down cost and profession question as i shall only allocate my time on developing new client but the next minute he will critisize me for not understanding net cost structure and professiona well enough to judge if factory and client's demands are reasonable. what the hell am i supposed to do?
but hey look this way sharlin, you may have just misunderstand Andy, basic cost breakdown and technical problems are very necessary in order to give clients an immediate responce but he was not asking u to understand as many as your engineers do!! you understand andy is not always that careless so u must be patient and double check with him if the net cost is reasonable before you quote though if you are having a difficult time to evaluate the price yourself. maybe next time before going to andy, try to list down the most criticals point in neat and make him understand all the demans in one go shortly , and stay confident and speak promptly though.
how about public relation thing? he was asking me to be cool when i am dealing with clients but how are you going to socialize without trying to cheer up the enviroment? is it some kinda of catch 22? well different people like different style of socialization..maybe the top priority for you to learn is to spot what your clients' style are then u can transform yourself to different style to opt then. well saying is easier than action but at least i have figured out what the three main things i must focus on right now.
1. obtain basic professional knowledge
2. before quotating out to client, get andy's approval first. ( list down all the critical points in neat form)
3. spot clients' style and adopt to his favor
Right Let's do it together
but hey look this way sharlin, you may have just misunderstand Andy, basic cost breakdown and technical problems are very necessary in order to give clients an immediate responce but he was not asking u to understand as many as your engineers do!! you understand andy is not always that careless so u must be patient and double check with him if the net cost is reasonable before you quote though if you are having a difficult time to evaluate the price yourself. maybe next time before going to andy, try to list down the most criticals point in neat and make him understand all the demans in one go shortly , and stay confident and speak promptly though.
how about public relation thing? he was asking me to be cool when i am dealing with clients but how are you going to socialize without trying to cheer up the enviroment? is it some kinda of catch 22? well different people like different style of socialization..maybe the top priority for you to learn is to spot what your clients' style are then u can transform yourself to different style to opt then. well saying is easier than action but at least i have figured out what the three main things i must focus on right now.
1. obtain basic professional knowledge
2. before quotating out to client, get andy's approval first. ( list down all the critical points in neat form)
3. spot clients' style and adopt to his favor
Right Let's do it together
2008年7月30日 星期三
my fate
For God's sake, i have just been told that good relationship and love are not destined to appear in my fate by some kind of on-line future teller who concluded from my birthday and hours. how can i ever live without a romance? i have always been dreaming of growing old with my husband and surrounded by family and a big group of dogs..i could even see the picture so clear but now somebody is telling me it is unreachable. why? is it because of my strong personality and character? am i bad-looking? what;s wrong with me for not having any bf for the past 2 years? right calm down...you always have the chance to date but you just did not happen to come across any you are very fond of..well apart from Phil, who unlikely will ever turn out to be your true love particularly he is still having a serious relationship right now so you met the wrong guy. but well there must be something flaw about my personality? why the hell am i also so strong headed and opinionated? why the hell do i always want to pretend to be strong when i am weak, pretend to be happy when i am actually sad? what are those stupid personality for? Come on do you always need to be so arrogant with your own feeling and so...u know u shall only adore the people who value you other than just treating any radom stranger with the same kind of manner.
hey remember 90/10 principle? 10% things we can never change but how about the rest of 90%? even you can not change the destiny but you can control your reaction and attitude to face it!!! learn from the past and being yourself but still though no need to laugh with everyone and value the ones who love you more, ok?
hey remember 90/10 principle? 10% things we can never change but how about the rest of 90%? even you can not change the destiny but you can control your reaction and attitude to face it!!! learn from the past and being yourself but still though no need to laugh with everyone and value the ones who love you more, ok?
90/10 principle
The 90/10 Principle Have you read this before? Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations). What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light., but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react. Let's use an example. You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react.You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter. Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day? A) Did the coffee cause it? B) Did your daughter cause it? C) Did the policeman cause it? D) Did you cause it? The answer is " D". You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having. Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction. Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc. How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? (A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive? Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it. You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job. The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle. The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle. It CAN change your life!!!
2008年7月29日 星期二
path
We all need to be aware of our personal calling. What is a personal calling? It is God's blessing, it is the path that God chose for you here on Earth. Whenever we do something that fills us with enthusiasm, we are following our legend....However, we don't have all the courage to confront our own dream
after watching *brave story*
just after watching an japanese animation called Brave story about a 11 years-old kid stepped on a jouney to change his destiny and realized he can never change destiny but instead he can embrace it and accept it. whenever there is a happiness, there is always unhappiness following afterwards. whenever there is love, there will also be hatred. because you have experienced sunshine, this is why u know about darkness. because u have seen beautiful, that is why something is ugly. two sides of sword is the unchangable rule so in order to embrace happiness, you must also accept unhappiness.
both of us believe in karma but it is really silly to believe you are paying for the bill of your betray even there is always a consequence we must confront for every choice we take. but no one can be in good luck all the time as you said shit happen, so get over it.you can neer take all the happiness yourself, something bad may happen sooner or later..even you don;t believe in destiny but you can;t deny we are living on it and it is not changable but can be learnt to adopt it. it is none of your fault for bad thing cos on the other side of happiness, there is unhappiness.
i am not so sure why i am going on and on about those when i know you don;t believe it anyway. but anyway my point is stop blaming yourself and please take whatever will hit you bravely. if all those stuffs are too much for you, then i am sorry for showing up in your life and interfere your comfortable life. take care and wish all the best to you
both of us believe in karma but it is really silly to believe you are paying for the bill of your betray even there is always a consequence we must confront for every choice we take. but no one can be in good luck all the time as you said shit happen, so get over it.you can neer take all the happiness yourself, something bad may happen sooner or later..even you don;t believe in destiny but you can;t deny we are living on it and it is not changable but can be learnt to adopt it. it is none of your fault for bad thing cos on the other side of happiness, there is unhappiness.
i am not so sure why i am going on and on about those when i know you don;t believe it anyway. but anyway my point is stop blaming yourself and please take whatever will hit you bravely. if all those stuffs are too much for you, then i am sorry for showing up in your life and interfere your comfortable life. take care and wish all the best to you
when love is transformed to be in different form
you were saying maybe it would be easier than i think to forget about you but actually i find the fact that it is even hard to take my thought off you so i choose another way to love you. i accept the fact you are taking a huge part of space in my heart and i do care about u a lot so i must live on it bravely. i will indirect the power to become motivation to learn german..see finally i find myself another motivation to do something and quite honest to you that i always have difficulty to find a motivation which can drive me persistently and now here you are leading me to another paradise. learning german shall be intersting so finger crossed that when one day we really meet up again, i can make some conversation to you in german though. thank u so much and i hope u will find some merit of our relationship
choice of life
There are so many things going on in my life and suddenly i am feeling lost where exactly i want to end my life. Andy is going to run his own business and invites me to join him..that means i have to drop out all my travel plan and expose myself to a new world i have been choosing to escape. earlier he and the other partner were in the lobby discussing about the plan and have also brought out their experience with dealing with european distributors. all those prostitution and fucking things were so over my top that i am starting to doubt if there is really something called true love and humiliation. i am not so sure why there are so many asia girls will go for guys who simply just happened to born with foreign looks? am i becoming one of those girls who is proud of dating with foreigners..i shall never be and can;t be but am i begining to be? consciously i am sure myself fuck up all those bastards playing among taiwanese girls but how about subconsciously? are i attracted by your foreign look? i shall have been used to foreign looks ..foreigner is one of those populations in the world,isn;t it? all those prostitution fucking things have been haunting me as well and i am getting to lose my faith in relationship and also in my job. being a sales in IT industry seems to be none-turning path in my life, through this job i will discover the deepest and darkest of human beings and perhapes make myself a big fortune in early age but is it really what i want for my life? haven;t i always dreaming of having a piece of land with lots of dogs and animal and lying aside to my lover and family? do i really need that much money to do so? can i not choose to be always innocent and pure? i really don;t know
2008年7月27日 星期日
the meaning of traveling
tell me the meaning of traveling!! why am i investing so much time and money in traveling? what have i learnt from traveling? whenever i look back and try to find one single thing i have learnt about traveling..i can think of nothing but only recalled my arrogant manner of rejecting to adopt to the local culture and customs. why was i doing that? i rarely know why i raised my guard so high when i was in third world? have i forgot the beauty which we were born to have? have i been put off only because of my biased assumption or other people's scary experience of being rip-off and being taken advantage by some bad guys? that is not really fair for me to treat local people with this inappropriate manner right? shouldn;t i have embrased who they are other than declining all of them?
on the boat jouney to batabong( not so sure about the spelling but it is the second largest city in cambodia) and stopped over in a less-civilized on-water food store, i was complaining to the local that why they charge foreigners triple price and it would never happen in taiwan. his resentive smile and shocking comment was something i shalln;t or can;t forget - sadly it is not taiwan but cambodia!! how could i be so silly to forget this basic principle- shall never expect someone to change for u, but you can decide to change yourself. how could i ever expect cambodia to comply to what i am used to in taiwan? that is rather stupid..i shouls have reset myself for a brand new country and embrase it.
next time don;t forget to reset yourself and let yourself go wild to learn the merits of different cultures, customs, people and countries. that is one of the meaning of traveling,right? at least that is what i believe in right now!!!
on the boat jouney to batabong( not so sure about the spelling but it is the second largest city in cambodia) and stopped over in a less-civilized on-water food store, i was complaining to the local that why they charge foreigners triple price and it would never happen in taiwan. his resentive smile and shocking comment was something i shalln;t or can;t forget - sadly it is not taiwan but cambodia!! how could i be so silly to forget this basic principle- shall never expect someone to change for u, but you can decide to change yourself. how could i ever expect cambodia to comply to what i am used to in taiwan? that is rather stupid..i shouls have reset myself for a brand new country and embrase it.
next time don;t forget to reset yourself and let yourself go wild to learn the merits of different cultures, customs, people and countries. that is one of the meaning of traveling,right? at least that is what i believe in right now!!!
2008年7月24日 星期四
the taste of blood
how hurt will that feel to know the one you love sleep next to another woman? how heart broken will that be to know he is actually in love with another woman? how would you blame yourself for hiding your internal love from him and lie to him that you will move on? when you are in hopeless love, you will taste the blood overflaoting from your heart!!
some people say if you really love that person so much, just set him free from your love and hope the best that he will get his deserved happiness even is not given by you. honestly if you really do that, you got to be really a good liar to yourself and manipulate yourself to transform your love to different form...i am struggling to complete this ideal task but so far for one day i have done ok but still lots of days or years ahead me i must cope alone.
the eternal sunshine of the spotless mind, can i be yours? missing you so much and who can tell me a way to erace all my memory of you and only stay with you as a friend?
some people say if you really love that person so much, just set him free from your love and hope the best that he will get his deserved happiness even is not given by you. honestly if you really do that, you got to be really a good liar to yourself and manipulate yourself to transform your love to different form...i am struggling to complete this ideal task but so far for one day i have done ok but still lots of days or years ahead me i must cope alone.
the eternal sunshine of the spotless mind, can i be yours? missing you so much and who can tell me a way to erace all my memory of you and only stay with you as a friend?
2008年7月18日 星期五
the taste of blood
it would be very ideal if i can follow below listed principles
1. stop insisting in stepping in the trap when you know it is there
2. shut down all the emotional feeling and pretend to be cool
3. when thing comes, just let it comes. when thing go, just let it be!!
4.choose who to love and not to love
5. if you are not the one who can make him happy, just step aside and wish all the best to him
6. if you really love him then set him free. don;t trap him in further troubles
7. just focus on your own dreams and fuck up all what people call about love
as a matter of fact i am still struggling to force myself to work under those principles and it is damn hard and no so sure how much *anaesthetic* i must consume to stop my heart bleeding. damn it i do know we are going nowhere and he does not love me...but what the hell am i doing? where is my dignity? ideal love, feeling of being in love are girl's thing and why am i fucking crazy about it?
hey move on sharlin , u must be tough and determined enough to say goodbye and carry on your life. stop thinking about him and feeling about him...he is not yours.
1. stop insisting in stepping in the trap when you know it is there
2. shut down all the emotional feeling and pretend to be cool
3. when thing comes, just let it comes. when thing go, just let it be!!
4.choose who to love and not to love
5. if you are not the one who can make him happy, just step aside and wish all the best to him
6. if you really love him then set him free. don;t trap him in further troubles
7. just focus on your own dreams and fuck up all what people call about love
as a matter of fact i am still struggling to force myself to work under those principles and it is damn hard and no so sure how much *anaesthetic* i must consume to stop my heart bleeding. damn it i do know we are going nowhere and he does not love me...but what the hell am i doing? where is my dignity? ideal love, feeling of being in love are girl's thing and why am i fucking crazy about it?
hey move on sharlin , u must be tough and determined enough to say goodbye and carry on your life. stop thinking about him and feeling about him...he is not yours.
2008年6月28日 星期六
england and the queen
is it really true that perhapes british queen has been brought up to conceal their own feeling and make duty to come to the first place? well from my first year experience in britian though during my volunteering that once the supervisor said to me that * you must be professional to make your personal attachment to the residents stay out of the business* , that was when i was so much emotional attached to the ladies i looked after. too much personal feeling might give the ladies i took care a tough time to adopt to the new carer when i leave...that was what she quoted to me. concealing your own feeling is really waht british people do or what they used to do? can we really categorize people based on their nationalities? don;t we conceal our feeling as well? well...at least i do...my diginty is so high that it is not easy to show my tender spot in front of people though particularly when it comes to something i feel pround of but turned out quite oppposite.
why are british like? after living in uk for 3 years, i would not say i know the culture well enough but i never really will call them cold-shoulder persons though at least most of people i have encountered are very kind and honest. some people may appreciate american;s passion but for me it is a bit fake somehow as in the bottom of their heart do they really have the love or passsion they show to othersss??? anyway going to grab a chance to discuss about the qurstion with Phil and find out what exactly british people believe who they are.
why are british like? after living in uk for 3 years, i would not say i know the culture well enough but i never really will call them cold-shoulder persons though at least most of people i have encountered are very kind and honest. some people may appreciate american;s passion but for me it is a bit fake somehow as in the bottom of their heart do they really have the love or passsion they show to othersss??? anyway going to grab a chance to discuss about the qurstion with Phil and find out what exactly british people believe who they are.
the taste of india
indian believe the third eye can make you look clear of the world; destruction is a good thing which ends one cycle and good thing can begin. hard to believe deep in the culture indians are well prepared to reset their lives again to pursume better life in the new beginning. that really recalls me of the book written by the famous japanese consultant about resetting life. people are that kind of animal who will be so much used to the comfort they have in present and get freaked out of the changes which may turn their lives up side down by any chance. but somehow we may have subconsiously dismiss something more importat and end up munipulating ourselves to do something totally against our will and mopping around to complain about life. what if the indian god of destruction work on me right now, will i feel better to step out of my little comfort and go on the jouney of spiritual quest again?
when i close my eyes and allow my nose to deeply inhale the smell of the indian incense sticks, my head is picturing how indian , a country totally opposites from what i may know will teach me about the life. why am i not staying with family? why did i start to shut down my heart and rejects different things? would i also refuse to soak myself in their holy river if i was in india now?
however the indian movie *outsource* has told me a few lessons:
lesson one: close ur eyes and see things through your third eye
lesson two: destruction can be a good thing. don;t be afraid to reset my life
lesson three: never try to apply your thinking to others. when you are in rome, being a roman.
lesson four: learn to appreciate different cultures and embrase it from the deep down of your heart
lesson five: believing in people
lesson six: love everyone around you
by the way taking every single day as your last day, what will you do if you only have one day to live in the world? -----i will say i will use all my heart to love everyone around me and how about u?
when i close my eyes and allow my nose to deeply inhale the smell of the indian incense sticks, my head is picturing how indian , a country totally opposites from what i may know will teach me about the life. why am i not staying with family? why did i start to shut down my heart and rejects different things? would i also refuse to soak myself in their holy river if i was in india now?
however the indian movie *outsource* has told me a few lessons:
lesson one: close ur eyes and see things through your third eye
lesson two: destruction can be a good thing. don;t be afraid to reset my life
lesson three: never try to apply your thinking to others. when you are in rome, being a roman.
lesson four: learn to appreciate different cultures and embrase it from the deep down of your heart
lesson five: believing in people
lesson six: love everyone around you
by the way taking every single day as your last day, what will you do if you only have one day to live in the world? -----i will say i will use all my heart to love everyone around me and how about u?
2008年6月27日 星期五
younger me VS elder me
when was the last time i just stepped out of the door and traveled to where my heart told me to ? when was the last time i felt fearless and simply follow my heart? do you still remember the reckless sharlin who was fearless and completely disregard people's comments but her own heart? when was the last time she sent herself free in the spring of the desert? has she lost herself and become too timid to do what she wants? is she just wasting her life worrying about how to cover the life expense and how much she could make without quitting the job without paying more attention to what exactly she loves best? Have I lost myself??????
mam asked me when exactly i am planning to attend australia work and travel programm when we were waitting outside of the train station last sunday. i was guttered to give a proper answer as the fear of losing something was sailing around the bottom of my heart. ha..i gradually become exactly that kind of coward who only has big dream but lacking of execution..i am really feeling so ashamed of myself right now. how did i start to forget what i said to Chris( the old randon american gentleman i met in scotland) that i would keep walking forward without fear even the future is unclear? do you still the time you still smiled even you did not know where to stay for the nite? security was bullshit but freedom was slogan...but you have totally changed into someone who is totally a sheep like...no difference from the others.
why are you worrying about where to locate your expensive furniture when you go out to travel? why are you worrying about where to find a job when you return? with these much of worry ahead you, you could go nowhere and you will never grow in this way...totally out of question. but why are you doing this ?
when realsharlin VS more-experienced and conscious sharlin, who will win the battle? what will be the best solution for both?
mam asked me when exactly i am planning to attend australia work and travel programm when we were waitting outside of the train station last sunday. i was guttered to give a proper answer as the fear of losing something was sailing around the bottom of my heart. ha..i gradually become exactly that kind of coward who only has big dream but lacking of execution..i am really feeling so ashamed of myself right now. how did i start to forget what i said to Chris( the old randon american gentleman i met in scotland) that i would keep walking forward without fear even the future is unclear? do you still the time you still smiled even you did not know where to stay for the nite? security was bullshit but freedom was slogan...but you have totally changed into someone who is totally a sheep like...no difference from the others.
why are you worrying about where to locate your expensive furniture when you go out to travel? why are you worrying about where to find a job when you return? with these much of worry ahead you, you could go nowhere and you will never grow in this way...totally out of question. but why are you doing this ?
when realsharlin VS more-experienced and conscious sharlin, who will win the battle? what will be the best solution for both?
2008年6月26日 星期四
Appreciation
after speaking to the gentleman from downstair, i realize that i might have forgotten to appreciate the priviliage and convenience i have been offered in daily basis and somehow taken everything for granted subconciously. human being tend to feel victimized for both of what they have encountered or given and in quote dubious sense we have choosed to ignore what we have been offered. i wonder if i am also one of those bastards who forget to thank for everything i have already had on my hand but instead shall just stop myself from mopping around what i am short of then. from now on, i am pushing myself to only appreciate for everything, despite goodness or badness and stop complaining about how miserable life is.
New Habit one: Learn to appreciate!! and stop complaining
New Habit one: Learn to appreciate!! and stop complaining
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