shit beginning shall only lead to another great day

just had a fight with Andy again regarding our over priced power wireharness project, gesus christ a sales is not supposed to rely on engineering either purchasing department to give you a realistic price otherwise u are bearing a huge risk to lose the order. but why does Andy change his mind so often, one minute he will be scolding me for digging on cable break down cost and profession question as i shall only allocate my time on developing new client but the next minute he will critisize me for not understanding net cost structure and professiona well enough to judge if factory and client's demands are reasonable. what the hell am i supposed to do?

but hey look this way sharlin, you may have just misunderstand Andy, basic cost breakdown and technical problems are very necessary in order to give clients an immediate responce but he was not asking u to understand as many as your engineers do!! you understand andy is not always that careless so u must be patient and double check with him if the net cost is reasonable before you quote though if you are having a difficult time to evaluate the price yourself. maybe next time before going to andy, try to list down the most criticals point in neat and make him understand all the demans in one go shortly , and stay confident and speak promptly though.

how about public relation thing? he was asking me to be cool when i am dealing with clients but how are you going to socialize without trying to cheer up the enviroment? is it some kinda of catch 22? well different people like different style of socialization..maybe the top priority for you to learn is to spot what your clients' style are then u can transform yourself to different style to opt then. well saying is easier than action but at least i have figured out what the three main things i must focus on right now.

1. obtain basic professional knowledge
2. before quotating out to client, get andy's approval first. ( list down all the critical points in neat form)
3. spot clients' style and adopt to his favor
Right Let's do it together

my fate

For God's sake, i have just been told that good relationship and love are not destined to appear in my fate by some kind of on-line future teller who concluded from my birthday and hours. how can i ever live without a romance? i have always been dreaming of growing old with my husband and surrounded by family and a big group of dogs..i could even see the picture so clear but now somebody is telling me it is unreachable. why? is it because of my strong personality and character? am i bad-looking? what;s wrong with me for not having any bf for the past 2 years? right calm down...you always have the chance to date but you just did not happen to come across any you are very fond of..well apart from Phil, who unlikely will ever turn out to be your true love particularly he is still having a serious relationship right now so you met the wrong guy. but well there must be something flaw about my personality? why the hell am i also so strong headed and opinionated? why the hell do i always want to pretend to be strong when i am weak, pretend to be happy when i am actually sad? what are those stupid personality for? Come on do you always need to be so arrogant with your own feeling and so...u know u shall only adore the people who value you other than just treating any radom stranger with the same kind of manner.
hey remember 90/10 principle? 10% things we can never change but how about the rest of 90%? even you can not change the destiny but you can control your reaction and attitude to face it!!! learn from the past and being yourself but still though no need to laugh with everyone and value the ones who love you more, ok?

90/10 principle

The 90/10 Principle Have you read this before? Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations). What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light., but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react. Let's use an example. You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react.You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter. Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day? A) Did the coffee cause it? B) Did your daughter cause it? C) Did the policeman cause it? D) Did you cause it? The answer is " D". You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having. Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction. Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc. How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? (A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive? Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it. You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job. The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle. The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle. It CAN change your life!!!

path

We all need to be aware of our personal calling. What is a personal calling? It is God's blessing, it is the path that God chose for you here on Earth. Whenever we do something that fills us with enthusiasm, we are following our legend....However, we don't have all the courage to confront our own dream

after watching *brave story*

just after watching an japanese animation called Brave story about a 11 years-old kid stepped on a jouney to change his destiny and realized he can never change destiny but instead he can embrace it and accept it. whenever there is a happiness, there is always unhappiness following afterwards. whenever there is love, there will also be hatred. because you have experienced sunshine, this is why u know about darkness. because u have seen beautiful, that is why something is ugly. two sides of sword is the unchangable rule so in order to embrace happiness, you must also accept unhappiness.

both of us believe in karma but it is really silly to believe you are paying for the bill of your betray even there is always a consequence we must confront for every choice we take. but no one can be in good luck all the time as you said shit happen, so get over it.you can neer take all the happiness yourself, something bad may happen sooner or later..even you don;t believe in destiny but you can;t deny we are living on it and it is not changable but can be learnt to adopt it. it is none of your fault for bad thing cos on the other side of happiness, there is unhappiness.

i am not so sure why i am going on and on about those when i know you don;t believe it anyway. but anyway my point is stop blaming yourself and please take whatever will hit you bravely. if all those stuffs are too much for you, then i am sorry for showing up in your life and interfere your comfortable life. take care and wish all the best to you

when love is transformed to be in different form

you were saying maybe it would be easier than i think to forget about you but actually i find the fact that it is even hard to take my thought off you so i choose another way to love you. i accept the fact you are taking a huge part of space in my heart and i do care about u a lot so i must live on it bravely. i will indirect the power to become motivation to learn german..see finally i find myself another motivation to do something and quite honest to you that i always have difficulty to find a motivation which can drive me persistently and now here you are leading me to another paradise. learning german shall be intersting so finger crossed that when one day we really meet up again, i can make some conversation to you in german though. thank u so much and i hope u will find some merit of our relationship

choice of life

There are so many things going on in my life and suddenly i am feeling lost where exactly i want to end my life. Andy is going to run his own business and invites me to join him..that means i have to drop out all my travel plan and expose myself to a new world i have been choosing to escape. earlier he and the other partner were in the lobby discussing about the plan and have also brought out their experience with dealing with european distributors. all those prostitution and fucking things were so over my top that i am starting to doubt if there is really something called true love and humiliation. i am not so sure why there are so many asia girls will go for guys who simply just happened to born with foreign looks? am i becoming one of those girls who is proud of dating with foreigners..i shall never be and can;t be but am i begining to be? consciously i am sure myself fuck up all those bastards playing among taiwanese girls but how about subconsciously? are i attracted by your foreign look? i shall have been used to foreign looks ..foreigner is one of those populations in the world,isn;t it? all those prostitution fucking things have been haunting me as well and i am getting to lose my faith in relationship and also in my job. being a sales in IT industry seems to be none-turning path in my life, through this job i will discover the deepest and darkest of human beings and perhapes make myself a big fortune in early age but is it really what i want for my life? haven;t i always dreaming of having a piece of land with lots of dogs and animal and lying aside to my lover and family? do i really need that much money to do so? can i not choose to be always innocent and pure? i really don;t know

the meaning of traveling

tell me the meaning of traveling!! why am i investing so much time and money in traveling? what have i learnt from traveling? whenever i look back and try to find one single thing i have learnt about traveling..i can think of nothing but only recalled my arrogant manner of rejecting to adopt to the local culture and customs. why was i doing that? i rarely know why i raised my guard so high when i was in third world? have i forgot the beauty which we were born to have? have i been put off only because of my biased assumption or other people's scary experience of being rip-off and being taken advantage by some bad guys? that is not really fair for me to treat local people with this inappropriate manner right? shouldn;t i have embrased who they are other than declining all of them?

on the boat jouney to batabong( not so sure about the spelling but it is the second largest city in cambodia) and stopped over in a less-civilized on-water food store, i was complaining to the local that why they charge foreigners triple price and it would never happen in taiwan. his resentive smile and shocking comment was something i shalln;t or can;t forget - sadly it is not taiwan but cambodia!! how could i be so silly to forget this basic principle- shall never expect someone to change for u, but you can decide to change yourself. how could i ever expect cambodia to comply to what i am used to in taiwan? that is rather stupid..i shouls have reset myself for a brand new country and embrase it.

next time don;t forget to reset yourself and let yourself go wild to learn the merits of different cultures, customs, people and countries. that is one of the meaning of traveling,right? at least that is what i believe in right now!!!